This is true vicarious, I will believe what I will, and there's no way to trust that someone on an online forum is being honest.
I don't know how you two can both claim to be psychopaths and not find being in control more appealing.
Here are some quotes I found online about psychopaths and control:
"Any situation where you’ve a got a power structure, a hierarchy, the ability to manipulate or wield control over people, you get psychopaths doing very well."
Source: The Pros to Being a Psychopath
"Power and control over others is what drives the psychopath and that is the reason that we find them sitting on power positions"
Source: Psychopathy101
"This idea of control is very important. When a person is involved in a sexual relationship, you could say they are revealing themselves, they are giving of the most intimate aspect of themselves.
And many psychopaths realize this and make use of it. When a relationship becomes sexual psychopaths understand that have the potential for complete control."
Source: Sexual Psychopaths