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I think the closest you could get to an honest friendship with a true Sociopath is to be entirely honest about who they are. To leave them the room to be themselves. That gives them much less cause to lie, however might result in you getting "hurt" a lot more than what you can handle. 

You'd have to be able to cope with their true personalities (or as true as they would willing to be in front of you). 

At least, that's the case in my experience. 

Trusted? Never.

Kind? If they need to be.

by Green_Eyes_Female

Not sure if you can have a kind and trusted friendship with a sociopath.

 It depends entirely on the sociopath's level of functioning and how useful you are to them.

There's a guy I know online who claims to be a psychopath (I don't know him personally, so I can't be sure if anything he says is legitimate). He's married with kids and from what I understand, his relationship is working because his wife is aware of his psychopathy and has learned to accept him the way he is. She's in love with him and while he's not in love with her, she's useful to him in that she caters to his needs - cooks dinner, does housework, has sex with him etc.

I can see how a relationship like that might work, but is it kind and trusting? Kind and trusting is not something a sociopath desires to be, unless it benefits them.

Most sociopaths won't have a problem throwing you under the bus to save their own ass, and kindness becomes irrelevant to them once you lose your value.

If you want a relationship with a sociopath, be it friendship or something more, then expect to be used and abused at some point or another.

I dont want a trusted friendship with anyone.

Every person, who believes being my friend is my victim. If I need something, "friends" are not the worst choice for getting what I need.

The needs from "friends" like talking together, trust together and hang around together... dont interest me.

You can just control your side of the equation. You can be kind and trustworthy. You can't control how people will reciprocate, but they tend to meet you half way, once they trust you.

You can trust them to "do and be the way they want to."

As long as you don't impose expectations or conditions that aren't right for them, there's nothing to be violated.

As someone else said earlier, let them be themselves and you can work around that.

If mistakes are made, or boundaries get crossed, that's like other relations that go through similar learning curves.

Yes you can. Being a sociopath means you lack a natural conscience. You don't feel guilty, remorse and you don't really feel empathy.

Sociopathy does not define sociopaths. It's not as if every sociopath is selfish and only associates themselves with people who are of any use to them. A lot of sociopaths are like this, but some are not.

A sociopath is usually going to take a more cold and calculated approach towards a relationship as well as maybe feeling a connection to you. He/she will asses what you give and what you take. If the taketh is disproportionate to the giveth, then that can mean sociopaths stop being nice.

If you and your fellow sociopath have common interests or other ways to fulfill each others needs and keep both parties interested, then yes, you can have a friendship. Even kind to a degree. As for the trust, I don't think that you can have it in other kinds of relationships as well. People bond with each other out of the fear of being alone, failing to reproduce and other selfish reasons. So, anyone will betray you whenever your requests will require them to do more than they are willing to do for you. Unless you make them, that is.