Has anybody ever " forgot " to " turn off " their eyes only to look/speak to someone and see them overcome with fear ?
I can scare ppl with my words without meaning to. If they dont know my intent, and i bring up some hot button issue, they can project their fear on me, convinced i am trying to preach, control, manipulate, etc.
Just from bringing up an issue.
Because i am so serious about resolving problems, i made two ppl cry to my boss at work afraid i was mad at them when i wasnt at all. So i have scared ppl in ways that shocked me as the exact opposite of my intent. I remember thinking how the heck did that happen how could anyone be scared of me, what did i say wrong what did i do???
by Emily NghiemI can scare ppl with my words without meaning to. If they dont know my intent, and i bring up some hot button issue, they can project their fear on me, convinced i am trying to preach, control, manipulate, etc.
I told you you're manipulative and controlling. There was no projection of fear, lol.
It's called making an observation. You should try that sometime - observe more and talk less. Then you might actually learn how to communicate a lot better than you do now.
Because i am so serious about resolving problems, i made two ppl cry to my boss at work afraid i was mad at them when i wasnt at all. So i have scared ppl in ways that shocked me as the exact opposite of my intent. I remember thinking how the heck did that happen how could anyone be scared of me, what did i say wrong what did i do???
You suck at communication, pure and simple.