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Hi Miss: Everyone using projection to different degrees. We learn by mirroring each other.
It's also called "being a hypocrite" or throwing stones at others for sins you haven't clean up yourself.
We see this all the time.
The key is to clean up your side of the fence first. And surprisingly, this often compels others to do the same.
[As for the Bible, people take the warning about removing the beam from our own eye before helping a neighbor
remove a splinter to mean "don't judge at all" when actually it means to address your own biases/issues and
you "can see clearly how to help your neighbor with their issues."]
Miss you are not as bad as other people. The only time I see that your own ways/issues get in the way of others
is if you (a) expect people to get what you are saying when you say it "your way" instead of "their way" (everyone does this, it's part of being human and having our own ways and biases that don't match other people)
(b) you convey or attach emotion that they do not want to feel if that is your issue not theirs. I don't see you do this much, but where you feel uncomfortable about people's reactions, that is your own feelings to deal with.
(c) you take an assumption or stereotype/perception and "project" that onto someone you assume fits that group
We all project our ways until we figure out what the other person doesn't get or doesn't need, and then we adjust.
You seem to adjust and "listen" to when people respond, so you will be fine!
OK I will try to "guess" and interpret for her, but if we guess wrong, please do enlighten us with your light, I mean, darkness.
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Dear Miss: Since Wilful is playing Passive Aggressive, I will guess until I get it wrong and he stomps my ass, blaming me for it.
For you to be "controlled by more than one person" means either you are trying to bow/kowtow to your boyfriend and kiss up to asses here at the same time, where you are not independently speaking/acting for yourself.
[It could be indirect reference to puppets, that you are fake and controlled by another puppeteer online, but I don't think he meant that.]
I am also surprised you come across as personable and nice, and then try to bite back or fight back SP style.
So that seems incongruous to me as well, but I wouldn't call it fake.
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Wilful is any of that close enough?
by RichardParker@ EM -- Giant tiger sigh here... I shouldn't engage you, but I can't resist calling you on your BS . First off, thank you for sharing samples of your work with us.
I know you like long threads so here goes...
@ EM > "These letters were written by "tapping in" to the future edited letter that would be printed in the futureand writing "as close to that" as possible to send it in to the editor who would revise it to its finished form." <
What the fuck does the above sentence even mean?! For someone who is such a stellar writer of "letters to editors", you should be able to do better.
Editors, as you claim to know so well, require clear and concise writing. I know this because I was one for many years and editing remains a fundamental part of the work I do in PR/communications. I'm not interested in sharing personal info. on a sociopath site (like you do??) but I can share that much.So anyhow, I took a quick look at your first 2 "letters to the editors" and they are atrocious. I wouldn't showcase that drivel as evidence of superior writing or thinking. It's garbage and editors cringe when you send them your crap. This I know.
Back to you, so what exactly do you do?? Write letters to editors all the day long? That's not a job. You know that right? It's just annoying.
I wouldn't claim that any of my posts on this forum are indicative of my communication skills, except perhaps my first letter to AJ, which was pretty fucking clear and concise, but you are full of it.
I don't think you are a pscho or a socio or an empath. You're a full blown narcissist. You think you're smarter than others, so you weigh in with weird rambling advice on every post and bring everything back to you.
You provide feedback to people who are far beyond your intellectual ability and you publicly share your identity on this site. You are one twisted woman.Why do you want to play games like hangman and make sure "everyone on SW has fun"? It's just weird and creepy, but narcs are like that.
And, you give off this obsessed, angry girlfriend vibe. And fuck, you're obsessed with tigers. BTW: you were never my girlfriend. I just want to say that! Please let me go - lol. We were never dating.
I suspect you're about a five cent cab ride away from taking your own life. Get yourself some help. You're really fucking odd.
Signed, not you boyfriend or you boss (I would never hire you as a writer) Richard Fucking Parker. Got it!
Here Miss: A stellar example of "projection"
RP doesn't know me or get what I am doing or why. So he "projects" his image or perception on me and SAYS THAT'S ME.
This is either a stereotypical projection, or it could be a reflection of his own issues blamed on someone else.
I don't know him well enough to determine which, but I KNOW this is not me. I'm trying to help people and put myself last. I've deal with severely narcissistic people because I am not one, otherwise we'd clash for attention.
completely off on that call, thus this shows projection from elsewhere.