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Do you feel the need to connect with others?


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Brief intro - I'm 21. I've always known I was different, but I discovered at age 15 what sociopath truly meant, and knew instantly that I fit the bill. It was a defining moment in my life. It wasn't a nice thing to find out I was a sociopath, but it brought a lot of answers to the table. I was finally able to understand myself to an extent.

Anyway, What I want to know is - Do you guys feel the need to connect with other humans? Can you do it? 

I personally don't understand human connection. Whenever I've lost a family member or a friend to death or just because we've gone our separate ways, I don't feel as if a cord between us has been severed. The only loss I feel is some of the pleasure I got from their company from time to time, but I can get over that. 

It's like other humans can enrich my life due to their personalities, qualities or services, but I don't feel this bond that people carry on talking about. I see the emotion in other peoples faces when they are together, I see them gazing into each others eyes, like their minds and souls are linked.... and I just stand there thinking "wtf"?

Whenever I look into peoples eyes they seem to want to look away quite quickly.

Whenever I hug my parents it's fake. The only reason I actually still talk to them is because I realise that they've done a lot for me, and out of principle I will stick by them for now. It only seems fair. I don't feel much for them deep down, but I'm not going to be an ungrateful little brat. I know when I owe someone, but it's not out of sympathy or gratitude, it's a cold and calculated move that I use to make myself feel like less of a piece of shit.

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This question is clearly directed toward other socios, so I won't meddle in that part, but many of our actions are rational and thus the same for empaths and non-empaths. I'm an empath, but I don't like everyone in my path nor do I feel the need to connect with them, so my actions toward them are calculated same as they would be for you. I do the right thing b/c rationally I know that it's the correct thing to do. It's a choice, so depending on the situation and the person I choose accordingly. I generally like to stick to fairness, it makes sense to me, if you're good to me - I'll be good to you, if not - all bets are off, it's just. 

When I hug my mom it's mostly fake too, not b/c I don't love her, but I just don't feel the need to. I do it because she wants me to and it means a lot to her, thus it's the right thing to do. It's a rational decision too.

I fully understand where you're coming from, I don't think that it's very different for us even if we are from "opposite" sides of the spectrum. 

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One of my SP friends will call txt or PM me constantly and does connect and needs connection. It depends on the person the relationship and situation. If you dont feel or experience things the same way it doesnt mean theres no connection. Some ppl would be glad to feel detached as you. So its a give and take. Some disadvantages but also advantages. You can compensate by relying on friends to help you. The same way my SP or atheist friends help me to see more objectively without emotional bias. We still have to help each other. That doesnt change. You are needed in the world just how you are or you would come out different. So make the most of your gifts and find friends you can share with for mutual benefit. Nithing wrong with that just be honest be yoursef and your true friends will love you just the way you are.

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I'm not saying the things I talk about are the things I automatically associate with sociopaths, but I'm just wondering how common it is for sociopaths to feel the need to connect.

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 yawn

why post here if you're not looking for some type of connection?  

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by Virus

 yawn

why post here if you're not looking for some type of connection?  

 I don't really equate human interaction to human connection.

I'm really just interested in other peoples thoughts on this really. The internet is a good way to communicate with others who you don't give a shit about, and they don't give a shit about you. You just type shit and read other peoples shit. 

 

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 Interaction forms a connection, whether you equate that or not.  What interest you about other people's views on this?  Looking to see if you're not so different maybe?

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by BELIAL

 Anyway, What I want to know is - Do you guys feel the need to connect with other humans? Can you do it?

 Emotionally connect as in bond with others? No, I don't, nor does it interest me to.

I like to socialize with others, but there's no emotional connection happening. It's just human interaction.

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by Virus

 Interaction forms a connection, whether you equate that or not.

 So, you get emotionally connected to people you interact with socially? lol

You must think you have something real special with me then...

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 I'm an emotional guy… 

Something special?  You're retarded.

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