by Thrill Kill
by AidanI agree, the way she had singled out an individual, rather than a simple "Some people have an odd claim that they're socios, yet they romantacize it."
He was a prime example, so I just used him to get my point across.
you should change your name to socklube
Edit: to thrill of course
Dear Aidan: I would make a distinction between (a) people who are addicted because of drugs/abuse, (b) people who really are sick spiritually with possessive disorders like demonic voices or visions coming from the spiritual realm outside their control where they can't stop it, and (c) people who can change by free will and reason how they use or respond to these impulses.
I see little sense in judging people who are not finished or even fully aware of the process or the difference between these types.
Better to focus on how we can help each other improve, to be more effective no matter where we are coming from, and we will figure out the rest as we go. No need to pass judgment on people, but evaluate our own judgment/perception.
by Thrill KillDaddy claims to be a romantic psycho who likes to empathize and emotionally connect with people. lol
That's what I meant by his romanticized view of psychopaths. Because we all know psychopaths genuinely care about people as much as Daddy does...
No wonder Daddy clashes with me! If he is an "empathetic romantic SP who emotionally connects with people" while I am an all-inclusive empath who will even use SP humor to try to connect with SP, we will certainly clash like matter and anti-matter. Maybe he fears his world would end if he let me in, but I find both our worlds open up more when both people "dare" connect with total opposites.
TK I notice you don't go and "project issues" onto me just because there may be issues expressed in my messages. You hold yourself responsible for your own, and hold me responsible for my own. This is what I mean by you know yourself, that you are comfortable in your own skin.
But some of these other people, when they want to criticize me, they project and protest a bit too much. some of that is clearly coming from them. They don't fully know their limits or how to control changes, so they respond with fear. And somehow make it my fault, or yours, if we happen to trigger this fear response.
I believe in going through these games openly, with full transparency. Even that may disturb people who are used to being judged and having to play in secret. Why waste the energy masking it? Why not go full throttle and get it over with?
Edvard thinks he has a sadistic side. But I'm told this drive I have for free speech / transparency ends up in the most sadistic impact on people. the pain and fear it causes is all the more horrible in that I don't have any ill intent so it is scarier.
When I was desperately trying to help my own mother get over the family past that was repeating another generation, she told me begging me to stop "If you loved me you wouldn't hurt me this way" and she cried like a child begging a parent to stop. That's when I knew the tables had turned, and now here I was coming back and trying to help my own mother do what was for "our own good" and she was reduced to a crying child, angry at the Parent figure for forcing things to change she wasn't ready to face. I never ever meant to crush my mother to that level, and my family was furious at me for it: I really meant to help get rid of karmic garbage that was trapping us in BS, but it hurt too much.
So people think that is sadistic, pure evil for me to go back to the people my father hurt and bring up the past to resolve it. I meant it for the best, and it hurt people in ways that made them want to die. Me too. So what kind of sadistic acts could beat that. when killing people with kindness brings people to their knees.
Sorry but this is why I feel that some of these SP people on here, I would really like to know what their idea of pain and sadistic fantasy is. And compare notes.
I truly believe, when you understand the nature of suffering, the spiritual depths and how we are really connected. You don't wish that kind of ill on people. Not even the people you most hold as deserving it. You realize you can enjoy greater power exerted in positive ways. And if you enjoy suffering, you don't have to go out and create new problems. Just facing what's already there is plenty enough!
Thanks TK sorry for the long ass msg.
I think that its overdiagnosed to include people who are just troubled and misunderstood. Such as those growing up in enviroments that taught them that it didn't matter how you act, you're going to get beat either way, so you might as well have had fun.
As far as the stereotyped view of psychopathic killers, I guess its the same as with the flambuoyant gay male stereotypes, based on the most standoutish features of the "other" nons could come up with. Something to label psychopaths with I guess. I really don't think much of it outside that.