People relate themselves to , others. They put themselves in other people shoes. Or they project onto other people. I personally don't compare myself to others, I don't project, and I see myself as a separate entity than my consciousness. If I get ridiculed our tress in one way or another, I find it humorous. Anybody else like this?
It is one thing to recognize your perception is separate from others; it's another thing to forgive those differences. I find that's where people get stuck. Once people cannot forgive a difference, but fear it can't be resolved; then denial and projection starts, blaming each other to build mental walls of defense. The battle is then over changing both sides, or keeping this division going, where third party interests "profit off the conflict" and take control by triangulating it.
Regardless of our religious or political views; the key issue I found is if we live by retributive justice (focus on judgment and punishment, where some ppl only respond to this approach) or restorative justice (forgiveness and correction or restitution). Problems can't be solved applying the wrong approach to the wrong people; better to hold each group to their own rules and stop competing in fear.
Since I am more into restorative justice, I recognize I have this bias and can't reason very well with people who only understand bullying to stop other bullies.
Now I'm having a hell of time trying to figure out how to separate people's perceptions over issues like the ACA and motivations by the parties and media. People cannot seem to separate their beliefs from perceptions, but project their views as "true" while discounting others as lying or false, period. It is worse than working on religious conflicts, where I had better luck with that! The political justifications and blame are so engrained, perhaps because laws and govt are mandatory while religions are optional? But this is the equivalent of political religions imposed by laws. If people are this biased and cannot even recognize mutual projection, how can we make public policy with this going on.
I know there are stages of religious development by Fowler, and cycles of political leanings. I'd like to agree on terms to explain this phase we're in now. Like denial and projection from the grief process, and how to get past this crap.
No. I most certainly do NOT put myself in anybody's shoes. That would be smelly and disgusting. And I don't feel other people's pain. I hardly feel any of my own. I thought we were all sociopaths here.....
Let me get my PDR real quick.
Yep, still a sociopath. Don't feel anything. You know, I try. But when it comes down to it, when the going gets tough and somebody has to go down with the last parachute, I sleep just fine knowing that I'm going to claw and scratch my way into being the one to have it.
Hi Emily.
Hi Unnamed. You may not put yourself in others shoes, but when you have a buddy who does, and you ask them for explanation of why people act like X Y Z, don't you still use that information to assess your perception? So you may not be a car mechanic or a seamstress, but you know when to make use of people who are.
of course em,
you have a valid point. I've actually spent time trying to mimic people's reaction to situations, just so that I could know how to lie appropriately in the future.
I think that I must be getting pretty adept at it because, when I'm forced to lie about something emotionally, I start feeling actual anger, even though I'm altogether guilty.
But when I'm actually innocent - that's what catches me off guard. I roll the dice and generally come up with "laughing".