This might seem trivial but I'm not going to rationalize it beyond that, but I saw something on Youtube today that got me thinking. Let's say you foot race a small child with just them and no one is around, so you don't have to take into consideration other people's observations. Do you go at it as hard as you can or do you let up and make it close or even let them win?
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It depends on the situation and what you hope to achieve from it.
When my daughter was younger and she kept pestering me over something she wanted, I'd say to her, "Well, okay. If you can beat me in a race to [some location nearby], I'll get it for you, but if I beat you, then you miss out".
Knowing full well I'm faster than her, I'd race her and win. Then, of course, she'd complain that I'm faster because I'm bigger and I'd reply, "Too bad. You agreed to the race. I won and now you miss out".
Depends on whethere i want to make the child confident and outgoing or shy and timid.
percieved success at a young age (any age really) has the effect of building confidence and other alpha type behavior. If i want to kid to develope alpha traits then i would make them think they win most of the time. if however i want them to show submissive traits i would dominate them into submission and never allow them to win.
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