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by Silkthread

 So what is a hopeless romantic to you guys, and is it like a mental affliction or totally healthy?

 It's only healthy for the ego, and only good if that same ego is being dealt what it desires in return.

If it's delightfully creative and pleasing, then it works. Otherwise it's sickining and unhealthy for both parties.

Example: - She asked for a kiss during the firecracker show, and ended up wanting to make out for a bit, like something one might see in a movie. He just wanted to watch the show.

In this example, one way or another, honesty will sour things up. The human consciousness is too Godly to judge, for if it is a mental affliction or mentally healthy, it is all a matter of perspective for the time being. 

Love me now Silky woman.

I'll have to agree with you on this one completely.

I guess I do it for the sensation.

To provide an example:

A few weeks ago I've attended an international folk dance festival. On the last day of the festival I grew very close to a "good christian" woman (a dance teacher and an amazing performer herself) from New Orleans, who wasn't afraid to approach me, as opposed to the hundreds of others, who would simply smile at me invitingly instead.

We danced throughout the night and after the music stopped, we kept dancing to our own imaginary music outdoors for several hours.

We haven't had sex and we barely kissed each other, but in the end the sensation of a somewhat ethereal intimacy sufficed.

I left the very next day and haven't spoken to her since.

She is married and I know she does love her husband.

I don't have any feelings for her, nor did I wish to develop any sort of affection towards her.

But she provided me with a sensation of what I seek, false as it might be on the surface.

I provided her with a sensation of what she was missing in her marriage in return.

I do not know how to feel guilty about it, but I do feel a deep sense of satisfaction due to the sensation I was provided with.

I'm hopeless.

 Sounds like a deal that went very well.

 You obviously don't know what a hopeless romantic is if you think this is an example of being one.

Now then... Read this doctor's take on it, and tell me what you guys think.

Forever Falling in Love With Potential

 Did I not sacrifice all the possibilities of mating and developing a long term relationship with all the other women, just to seek a momentary delusion of a romance, based on a desire to develop something meaningfull?

I did not push.

I simply played a wolf in a sheep's skin.

So did she.

Just because I'm twisted, doesn't mean I don't have a heart.

Indeed it was a deeply satisfying experience in my own contorted way.

I guess I don't know how to have a meaningful relationship.

One who is the hopeless romantic, the other would be lucky.

The hopeless romantic exists so even the wicked can be loved.

The lord almighty suggests, In giving do we recieve. In the end, the hopeless romantic will be stronger, able to handle abuse so well, it does nothing but makes them sick and tired or bored, and they will eventually carry on, leaving their abuser weak, alone, and unlovable as the abuser conditioned themselves to be by practice.

It's easy to call them door mats, however, beyond the typical perspective it's not really like that, and even more so when the hopeless transforms into the hopeful. 

 Actually Silkthread, I think Venator IS , in that particular instance, what some call a "hopeless romantic".

I think also, that romance is very subjective, and what one couple may regard as 'gag" material , works wonders for others. 

I think romance is in big part, perception and tied closely to ones moral codes and upbringing and that some folk place high importance on it, depending on circumstances. 

Some, it would seem, enjoy the romanticism for soley what it is in the moment, and others (as quoted in your posted article) use it as a manifesation of co-dependancy. 

I know some people who are hopeless romantics who often go out of their way to give, but who are mentally robust and astute , and others who correspond to what Dr Stacee says, who give "everything" to one person in the hopes that will recieve in kind", and who end up in manipulative or abusive relationships. In other words ....Socio fodder.

Like they say, beauty is in the eye of the beholder .......so is romanticism.