tony’s weaknesses - 1 - Sociopath Community

Relevance as a core desire is the need to matter: to know your presence has an impact and that you'd be missed.

To tony, being overlooked or replaced hurts more than being criticized. His biggest fear is being ordinary or "wasting potential”. Tony tracks influence obsessively: who responds, references him, or notices when he’s gone.

It’s why tony ‘disappears’ from time to time, and watches as a lurker for anyone to comment. it’s a test to see whether he’s missed. He reads silence as proof he’s not.
it’s why tony is such an active member here. He over-contributes in the forum, craving to be seen as the one with the insight, the plan, the expertise
Tony is drawn to big narratives like legacy, building something, or "making a mark."
his mood swings with feedback about impact, not with feedback about character. Tony is more hurt by being forgotten than by conflict.

the catch is, if relevance is the core need, self-worth depends on other people's attention.

tont chases superficial, visible impact over real-life connection. He’d rather waste time lecturing people to have a chatlog as proof of his relevance, than actually helping them with kindness. Tony seems quite lonely. Lonely tony.

tony treats every relationship on SC as a mirror. People become measures of whether HE matters, rather than people.

use this as you wish. who’s next?

If the title said "Nice things about so and so" I'd find them to be a respectable person. I don't feel the need to hide anything about myself, I've been doxxed long ago and comfortable with being seen. In yet another thread about me, here's what I have to say about I. ( Seriously I never get the chance to do this so thanks. OP makes this post more interesting too. )

I log out cause I like to scram without wondering if someone is trying to talk to me. Helps me focus on whatever I'm working on. When I come back I'll log in if I have something to say.

Yes I like building things and making stuff. Can't sit here staring at the dead community all day long.

I do NOT, make a lot of threads. Instead I tend to recycle old threads I've made which I rarely ever do.

This account has the highest post count, and all my accounts combined are still a low post count for the amount of time I've been posting here.

It's very sweet to see how the puppet complains when I'm not around and assumes it's a pitiful thing if I lurk. Pretty sure the puppet account lurks and observes how I move here, then accuses me of doing what they do. I don't see the puppet as someone very smart, and understand why they mustn't use their main account.

When I'm logged in I usually stay logged in for hours, but logging out in my opinion is good manners.

It's Friday, tonight I'm gonna game. The Last Guardian. This one is gonna warm my heart.

I never turn on the red dot to signal I'm away, and I've returned to find my account in the green.

Important ? Yes I like being important, but it doesn't hurt to be overlooked, rejected or belittled by just anyone.

I don't think I'm in love anymore after 14-15 years. Only people we love how the power to hurt us and they are the ones we can truly hate IF, they're cruel toward us.

Right now my favorite members are Nate and Legga. They are transgenders, tho I don't believe in that shit and tell them they are bisexuals, we still get along and roughhouse from time to time. Without them I'd have no one to entertain really.

I do not mirror people, but I am a mirror. I reflect back what people cast on me.

The ones who don't like what they see, are the ones who don't like seeing themselves for what they are.

Sounds crazy I know, but look at my haters. They aren't exactly the prime example of a good role model. They are the types that like to swing low. Not saying I'm better than anyone but I'd rather not be like that. Strikes me as weakness, or a need to bring others down in order to feel better about oneself. So yeah, I don't mirror, I'm a mirror.

I think that's all for now. Thank you for creating this thread for me, I don't usually make threads and I like to boast sometimes.

I also think your next thread couldn't possibly be better than this one. It's me after all, who knows maybe I'm wrong.