I'm not out to ruin anyone's fun, and this post isn't for everyone.
The time off is nice, who doesn't like time off. The rest isn't all that special. It's magical when we're children probably because we don't get to create our own festivities like adults can, plus we were young and inexperienced so the thought of a party was more exciting.
Since the mid 20's I particularly don't like holidays for various reasons, mostly how people start acting. It feels very synthetic to me. It's as though everyone takes a pill that thins the line between forced happiness or resentment. Jumping when their told to jump, while we can make a feast or send gifts anytime of the year.
Gemini said:People who don't care about holidays may do so because they find them overwhelming, stressful, or inauthentic. For others, it might be due to negative associations, financial and time pressures, or a simple preference for treating every day as a regular day
Reasons for not caring about holidays
-Overwhelm and stress: The pressure to participate, shop, prepare, and socialize can be emotionally and financially draining.
-Negative associations: Some people have painful or difficult memories tied to the holiday season, leading them to avoid it.
-Inauthenticity: Holidays can feel forced or artificial, and some people prefer to live their lives with more authenticity than what they perceive a holiday to represent.
-Commercialization: The emphasis on commercialism can make holidays feel hollow or meaningless to some individuals.
-Personal preference: Some people simply enjoy their own company or prefer to treat every day the same, finding no need to treat holidays as special occasions.
-Anxiety: The anticipation and fanfare surrounding major holidays can be a source of anxiety for some individuals.
I've gotten that before. When I was poor I saw that holidays are nothing without the spending. In the old tradition it wasn't about receiving, it was about the giving, but when you're poor lol. Being broke sometimes isn't a good enough excuse.
Christmas carols are tiresome. Try playing it in the summer, blast it. People will get really annoyed while the brains Christmas software is inactive.
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I have no remorse when people have meltdowns during holidays, or basically over anything that doesn't serve them. And there's nothing wrong with desiring happiness either, but this is technically spoiled behavior over not getting something, and there's so much more to life.
The same forces that get a massive spike in income are the same ones who wrote the script for the masses to follow.
Even without the meltdown, I find people are far too gone. If someone dies on or around Christmas, it makes it a bigger deal than if they died at any other time. To that I say, Just wake up.
Awhile back I was at a bar one December. It was the year of the PlayStation 2, and I had a grown man say to me with a sad tone, "It doesn't look like we're going to have a White Christmas" I just looked at him thinking how the winter actually sucks. Car accidents make people sad. So does ice and cold. Not to mention it's increases living expenses and we can actually freeze to death. Programming from a song. Still I see the appeal in snowfall, The snow is beautiful, until we touch it.
Throw a Christmas party in July. Put up the tree, make some food, do the gift thing. Do it with things you bought on sale, or on Boxing day, or Black Friday. Or skip the gifts all together. It'll be the same shit without the programming. Even more memorable since it was a self made Christmas. Or do a Holiday mashup on Firecracker day.
In a nutshell I avoid holidays in general because I can. And it's so easy missing out. If my partner was pissy about it, I certainly would participate to make her happy, but fortunately for me I'm not with someone so self absorbed or with their head in the clouds. As a matter of fact, she's actually seeing things my way now. I see her debt and I'm not paying for that, file for bankruptcy, I'll get you a shitbox replacement so you can keep driving to work and put some money on a prepaid card every now and then for like 7 years or so. Oh no she doesn't want to do it. Okay. If her friend told her to do it she would lol women are actually like that. Here comes the Holiday season again and we're laughing about what it really is behind the illusion. To many, it's the twilight zone in disguise. That and it isn't really Jesus's Birthday, though it was never about that for most. It's usually about what people get at the core.
To some I say. If it's going to suck, or if it always sucks. Recognize it in all it's detail above what it actually isn't. Cut it off. Let it go. You'll be happier while Holidays aren't your best days to begin with.
If it's your thing then do it if it's really something you enjoy without some underlying sense of obligation.