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Blanc said: 

1. what do you want? (in a partner, career, goal of some sort) 

Comfort. 

2. what are your asking for? (must be honest with yourself at this for this exercise to work) 

Comfort. 

3. what are you getting? 

Comfort. 

 EXample: 

Blanc said: 

1. what do you want? (in a partner, career, goal of some sort) 

love

2. what are your asking for? (must be honest with yourself at this for this exercise to work) 

sex 

3. what are you getting? 

 sex. 

see what I mean? 

it's how you reflect on things you might be doing wrong, creating unhealthy patterns 

What suggests that I'm creating unhealthy patterns, purely based on your model? 

I can argue all day how decisions of mine aren't the best, but purely in your model the only reason I'd imagine there being a seperation for me would be if I am unable to get the thing I want. If I can't get it, then I need to work on the fact that I wanted it so much until all that's left is comfort through acceptance. 

It's the same model I took on my former OCD/OCPD habits and my PTSD triggers. If they won't go away, they need to be forcibly conditioned until they stop, no matter what it takes, and when it works all that remains is comfort. It might seem like desperation at the time but that's needed to hit essential breaking points. If it proves unchangeable in the present context, then instead I focus on why the desire to rid of/acquire it was there and work on that. 

Why desire something that is unattainable when I could instead set simple goals that are within more realistic reaches? The more open ended the goal, the easier it is to accomplish, justifying a flexible life of loosely formed Xanatos Gambits. 

This is the goal using your model: 

Blanc said: 

1. what do you want? (in a partner, career, goal of some sort) 

#3. What I'm getting. 

2. what are your asking for? (must be honest with yourself at this for this exercise to work) 

#1. What I want. 

3. what are you getting? 

#2. What I'm asking for. 

What I'm getting is largely the foundation for where the rest goes, averaging them out from there until it's settled. It's better to keep it adaptive by expecting less for yourself, as the things we want and what we're saddled with can change from the smallest detail. 

I've found more peace to come from lowering my entitled sense of expectations. It's good to have standards, but to expect anything to go in any way at all is to try to control that which cannot be controlled, merely pushed. 

A topic I've found myself more wondering on lately though is "sustainability", how long something can last. 

1. what do you want? (in a partner, career, goal of some sort) 

Personal stability first and power to enact changes second

2. what are your asking for? (must be honest with yourself at this for this exercise to work) 

I ask so rarely, that I don't know. 

3. what are you getting? 

Usually, whatever I've worked for.

How to be successful?
Git Gud.

Blanc said: 

 EXample: 

Blanc said: 

1. what do you want? (in a partner, career, goal of some sort) 

love

2. what are your asking for? (must be honest with yourself at this for this exercise to work) 

sex 

3. what are you getting? 

 sex.

Have you ever been in love?