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This is mine ^.

I don't regret anything, don't even think about what I've done, unless I'm thinking about how it will affect me.

I feel like empathy is inverse to the ego, and that it otherwise has a natural baseline and shifts more like a dimmer switch. 

Isn't this how it is for any asshole off the street?

Ya I used to think it was just me but I think most people have the ability to choose to be a cunt in certain situations. I'm definitely empathetic and stuff but even I can be cold, it's just human nature. 

bongripper420 said: 

Basically, I have an empathy switch and I'm wondering if other people here do as well? I'm able to empathise and care for others, demonstrating kindness and generosity, but then I'll get horny and want to have sex with an underage girl, and I'm able to shut all that off to focus solely on my arousal. I pretty much lose control, or willingly give it up due to pressure. I block everything else out and it feels like I just need to get my fix, despite knowing that I'm doing something wrong.

Afterwards, I feel bad for a bit then I move on. Every once in a while it comes back up, but usually I don't think about the horrible things that I've done. The way I've rationalised it to myself is that I need to distress and it's either I suffer or them, so it will be them. When I do feel bad, it's not really a shameful feeling. It's more like, "man, really sucks that they're suffering because of me" and then I go on with my day because there's nothing I can do to change it.

THIS explains the behavior of someone in my personal life ive been trying to figure out. thank you. just so you know it has been driving me crazy trying to understand because I dont have an empathy switch, I always have empathy. the best i can do is try to convince myself that something i did wasnt bad or that the person genuinely deserved it. but if its bad and i know its bad and i know I caused someone i consider innocent a lot of pain, i will feel like shit about it forever even tho I dont think about it often after a while unless certain triggers come up

my view of who is innocent and who isnt is a lot different from most people tho, and I generally consider animals to be innocent as well even tho technically they can do manipulative behaviors and lying and deceit just like humans. i didnt used to think of it that way though because we are so much more intelligent than animals that it doesnt matter if they try to be manipulative lol. but i still consider animals to be innocent and dont like hurting them and will avoid it if at all possible, but I don't value their lives over human lives (anymore!! i used to when i was younger tbh lol)

Man I'm always stuck reflecting back some shadow of their feelings unintentionally in person, it's hard to just close people off like that consciously. I've had to work somewhat hard at points to trivialize feelings enough to avoid getting sucked into narratives. How is someone supposed to just block that shit out when it's so loud ? I watch people's faces and it reads like blindspots, like it just never crossed their mind that someone's having feelings in front of them. I understand trying to tune it out, the effort is telegraphed all over their faces, but straight up not seeing it is creepy shit to me. 

What I've observed though is that the more in someone's own head someone is (ie: Narcissism), the more that they will not pick up how other people are responding, while those who can't block off other's feelings are usually of a lower ego threshold or have a heightened sensitivity. As such, empathy tends to reflect doormat traits while a lack thereof tends to lead to self-driven narratives. A lack of empathy in such cases by design can make for leadership simply by the virtue of others cowing to their ego's inability to listen. 

Context can dimmer switch this confidence, but typically the more egoism that one practices, the less perception that they carry, while the more perception that they carry, the more that the things around them can overwhelm and short circuit them into exhaustion. 

There's a certain point where people will fail to see what's in front of them and start seeing confirmation bias.

That is an example of a guilt switch. Not empathy.

Empathy doesn't nessarily have a moral compass, as one may be empathic toward a tyrant ready to raise hell.