Thus multiple people in my life have blocked me, people who would otherwise matter.
The first step is acknowledging I have a problem.
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I’m tired of burning bridges and would like to reconnect with people who matter. The first step is acknowledging I have a problem
Meanwhile I think I’ve gained some emotional maturity. How do I undo the damage.
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You've shown a pattern of using people when you want something time and time again that it would be difficult for someone to give you the opportunity.
If you're in therapy great. Start there. Otherwise the only thing you can do is explain that you've come to realize your shortcomings and would like to offer them an apology for how you've treated them in the past. And nothing else. Don't try to justify your decisions or invalidate their feelings to how you behaved towards them. Apologize, Accept it and continue to work on yourself and call out your own troubling behaviors.
You've shown a pattern of using people when you want something time and time again that it would be difficult for someone to give you the opportunity.
She may think this kind of behavior is normal from how she's seen herself be treated across the span of her life, and as an adult it may now be all she can see.
She even seems to respond positively towards people being that way towards her. When Chapo does it she swoons, which is expected, but when others do it she insists that she has no interest in that person... which without context over how she thinks would appear really strange as a response against antagonism.
Otherwise the only thing you can do is explain that you've come to realize your shortcomings and would like to offer them an apology for how you've treated them in the past. And nothing else.
I feel like she'll expect reciprocation over how she bothered to apologize at all, she's typically looking for a reaction.
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Again I’m not talking about anyone online. As for your “response against antagonism”, can’t follow your really poor English. Even if you had said “response toward “antagonism” . I’m supposed to like someone just because they “neg” me or something?. Platonic persons blocked me too since I have to spell it out for you.
I’m not going to type more there. I hurt my arm and am saving it for what I want to say
So, bottom line is I kept leaving this guy. I pretended I didn’t know him: to my parents, to his parents. Still he called me for a time and I wouldn’t take his calls or see him. And now I belatedly want to know him and he used my work. It floors me that people say I have to act what I think is tepid try to connect on LI, although I can text him and so I’ve texted “to connect on LI” I don’t even think he’s on LI. He’s a professional musician. I want to offer my explanation which I guess you say is an apology, but people don’t do that. And if he doesn’t answer,
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9/26/2023 11:05:27 AM
[Med] I read the text you sent to me on Monday thoroughly. I read this email, also thoroughly.
If it were me, I would not send the email.
If it were me, I wouldn’t perpetuate my insomnia at 2 am by writing (obsessing) over an email and downloading major highlights of my life to someone I haven’t seen or contacted in a decade +.
If it were me, I wouldn’t reveal everything I want the person to know at once and in the first or second contact. If it were me, I would be concerned that I would scare the person off by telling him I burn bridges by coming on too strong, which, of course, may prove the point in writing the email.
It’s your life, do what you’d like and live with your decision.
Good luck and have a good day.
[Med] I read the text you sent to me on Monday thoroughly. I read this email, also thoroughly.
If it were me, I would not send the email.
If it were me, I wouldn’t perpetuate my insomnia at 2 am by writing (obsessing) over an email and downloading major highlights of my life to someone I haven’t seen or contacted in a decade +.
If it were me, I wouldn’t reveal everything I want the person to know at once and in the first or second contact. If it were me, I would be concerned that I would scare the person off by telling him I burn bridges by coming on too strong, which, of course, may prove the point in writing the email.
It’s your life, do what you’d like and live with your decision.
Good luck and have a good day.
"If it were me"?
Ę̵̚x̸͎̾i̴͚̽s̵̻͐t̷͐ͅe̷̯͠n̴̤̚t̵̻̅i̵͉̿a̴̮͊l̵͍̂ ̴̹̕D̵̤̀e̸͓͂t̵̢͂e̴͕̓c̸̗̄t̴̗̿ï̶̪v̷̲̍é̵͔
What's wrong with that she has better English than you
What suggests that from what I said?
Ę̵̚x̸͎̾i̴͚̽s̵̻͐t̷͐ͅe̷̯͠n̴̤̚t̵̻̅i̵͉̿a̴̮͊l̵͍̂ ̴̹̕D̵̤̀e̸͓͂t̵̢͂e̴͕̓c̸̗̄t̴̗̿ï̶̪v̷̲̍é̵͔
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