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I've come to realize I have a problem


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I'm chronically bored.

I've done some self diagnosis lately and I've come to realize that I'm not depressed, lonely, unhappy, or inactive. Yet, I constantly feel like something is missing from my life, and it's driven me to do a lot of things that ended up being frustratingly unfulfilling.

By most standards I should feel fulfilled and the opposite of bored. I have a demanding job, an active friend circle, family, hobbies, and I frequently take vacations and meet new people. Yet, after doing something once, I immediately get bored of the repetition and I want to do something else. There are only a few areas in which I feel like I'm discovering more things the more I refine it.

I think the only exception to this rule so far has been suffering. If I do something that causes me a significant amount of cognitive or physical suffering, I apparently don't get bored of it. I don't particularly like most such activities, but I like boredom even less. This was a rather groundbreaking discovery for me. For the past 3 month, I got so bored that I started fasting to kill the time. So far, my record is 8 days without food, and I intend to beat my all-time (involuntary) record in starvation from back when I was a student. This all has surprisingly helped me feel uplifted and I've also felt I could better focus after starting it. I heard that fasting induces autophagy which helps brain cells regenerate. Very exciting. Great success.

I am afraid thay i'm alone in my boredom, or otherwise the folks around me are excellent at hiding it. Or they have gotten used to the feeling. I think my personal hell would be waking up every day unemployed, slave to dopamine and everyday routines that slowly teach my brain to operate on autopilot. Yet, many people seem rather happy with that kind of a situation. It's hard for me to understand how people can ignore the feeling of growing stale, tolerating the boredom of everyday life. I feel physically ill when that happens. I wonder if it is some kind of a weird addiction. It's not ego, for sure, since I couldn't care less about compliments, even if I am not a fan of being criticized.

So, what do you know, 10 years of self analysis and introspection. Turns out I'm just chronically bored.

last edit on 7/17/2023 3:54:58 PM
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last edit on 7/17/2023 4:18:28 PM
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Med said: 

nvm

I saw what you said~

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I've done some self diagnosis lately and I've come to realize that I'm not depressed, lonely, unhappy, or inactive.

First problem's right here. ^

 
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I felt this way. Looking for something to sink time into and look forward to every day is important for your mental health. I don't know if you're "spiritual" but the right hemisphere is almost made for... praying? Something to do with a higher order. I have found enjoyment in esoteric practices. It gives me something to look forward to and assures me that the universe can't be fully understood (at this time, maybe ever, due to physical limitations). Do something new that breaks you out of your normal habitual routine. It should also be noted that it is very possible to become addicted to mental anguish, so be careful.

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Break ups aren’t always easy.

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Chapo said: 

Break ups aren’t always easy.

Tell me about it 

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cx3 said: 

I felt this way. Looking for something to sink time into and look forward to every day is important for your mental health. I don't know if you're "spiritual" but the right hemisphere is almost made for... praying? Something to do with a higher order. I have found enjoyment in esoteric practices. It gives me something to look forward to and assures me that the universe can't be fully understood (at this time, maybe ever, due to physical limitations). Do something new that breaks you out of your normal habitual routine. It should also be noted that it is very possible to become addicted to mental anguish, so be careful.

Praying? Funny you should mention it. I used to pray a lot, and I can see that the majority of the world has bought into religions. I'd like to continue the practice, but I feel like I'd be disingenuine in doing so, because I'm not quite sure if I still believe or not. Given that there are so many mutually exclusive faiths, and given how easy it would be to make up a story like that, and given that there is no hard evidence, it seems to me like logic should compel one to be an atheist or an agnostic, in lieu of personal experience of a God. I do think it is possible that the human brain was made with religion or introspection in mind, so to speak, either through evolution or through the hand of God.

Regarding your advice, I tend to try new things. But after over 10 years of doing that routinely, finding new things to do becomes routine. Except things that require me to exert significant cognitive effort, like fasting. Just last month I was traveling and trying out a number of new things.

last edit on 7/18/2023 12:33:36 AM
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cx3 said: 

I felt this way. Looking for something to sink time into and look forward to every day is important for your mental health. I don't know if you're "spiritual" but the right hemisphere is almost made for... praying? Something to do with a higher order. I have found enjoyment in esoteric practices. It gives me something to look forward to and assures me that the universe can't be fully understood (at this time, maybe ever, due to physical limitations). Do something new that breaks you out of your normal habitual routine. It should also be noted that it is very possible to become addicted to mental anguish, so be careful.

Praying? Funny you should mention it. I used to pray a lot, and I can see that the majority of the world has bought into religions. I'd like to continue the practice, but I feel like I'd be disingenuine in doing so, because I'm not quite sure if I still believe or not. Given that there are so many mutually exclusive faiths, and given how easy it would be to make up a story like that, and given that there is no hard evidence, it seems to me like logic should compel one to be an atheist or an agnostic, in lieu of personal experience of a God. I do think it is possible that the human brain was made with religion or introspection in mind, so to speak, either through evolution or through the hand of God.

Regarding your advice, I tend to try new things. But after over 10 years of doing that routinely, finding new things to do becomes routine. Except things that require me to exert significant cognitive effort, like fasting. Just last month I was traveling and trying out a number of new things.

 For me at least and the way I was raised, religions are a method to communicate universal truths through symbolism. It never was about the story itself but the underlying message (duh). Take the knight's templar, it's still around today, they just renamed themselves freemasons. But there is value in the things they teach, and I read up on what they do, compared and contrasted them with other practices. I have been an atheist my entire life until ~3 months ago, I still really don't know how to feel about it. I've done lsd and a few other hallucinogens before but it doesn't come close to what I experienced meditating. It really feels like my mind is shattered now that my beliefs have changed in such short time. I can't believe I'm saying this but I know god exists. And there is absolutely nothing to prove it. It goes against everything I know. 

People deal with modern monotany in extreme ways, maybe in part because it feels like the world is being strangled. At least in the US. It just seems like people are done with the system but we're all imprisoned anyways unless you're a billionaire, but even they are bored. I've been thinking about Chris Mccandless' quote "happiness is only real when shared". Maybe people hopping is the cure. idfk. I hope you enjoyed your trip though.

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Finally someone interesting said something 

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