you often say things like "but, but I don't understand.../I don't know what that means, I don't think the same/get it " etc. as if you think referencing autism is an excuse for shit behavior
How is that referencing autism? My husband is autistic and I usually go to him to help me understand things. So you can understand or not understand something whether you understand something or not. If I don't understand it means I don't understand. That's not an autism exclusive concept.