Because life is about more than just you.
No, I should choose to give to and help people that appreciate me this is what all of the modern psychology stuff on healthy boundaries say, and modern psychology has this correct
Modern Psych says a lot of shit, and you tend to cherrypick what you do and don't go with in that field to the point that appealing towards it means little from you.
Your idea of "Appreciation" is narcissistic in nature, sometimes you have to be willing to help someone who will not appreciate you for it. If it's only about being thanked than you don't want to heal people, you just want ego supply.
No, it is more to do with not wanting to waste time trying to rescue narcissistic people and narcissistic people are usually unappreciative so you have it backwards but if I am forced by spirit to keep trying to help narcissists then I have to, but if it is a soul loss issue keeping me trapped in unhealthy toxic relationship dynamics then I will move on
my empathy is at an all time high and I do not want to give up on trying to help narcissists, but if it is healthier for me to do that then I have to and God will show me either way
this forum is less toxic lately and I appreciate that a lot
I also feel scared that my shaman will abandon me for wanting to help narcissists, but maybe not maybe I can convince him to see my perspective, or he will convince me out of mine he promised not to abandon me and I trust him, and he already came out of a past narcissistic relationship so he knows what it takes to do that and the reasons why and if his reasons make more sense than my reasons then idk
I pray to God that something good comes out of this because I do not want to lose him as my mentor, and my relationship with my ex boyfriend isolated me from my support system even almost my mother because my support system did not approve and my ex boyfriend did not approve of them and I am scared of a repeat of choosing narcissistic relationships over my support system again
but my beliefs back then were so unhealthy and toxic and it makes sense that my relationship with my ex boyfriend was also unhealthy and toxic and my beliefs now are pretty healthy, at the very least I do not think that they are harming anyone
I mean I do have the potential to be an actual healing influence now, in a way that I could not do with my ex because my beliefs are much much better now (and yeah I might talk about some stuff that some people might not understand, but am I harming anyone ?)
