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and every time that I see sociopathcommunity or think of sociopathcommunity I am training myself to think of self-compassion and how to talk to myself more self-compassionately

here is an article on compassionate self-talk  https://www.selfcompassioncoaching.com/compassionate-self-talk.html

Compassionate Self-Talk

Compassionate self-talk is both a practice and a natural outcome of
self-compassion. It involves talking to ourselves the way we would
talk to someone whom we love and want to support and encourage.

You can think of compassionate self-talk as the opposite of the
Inner Critic. Most of us practice self-criticism way too much. We
need to train ourselves to be more compassionate.

Overcoming Negative Emotions

Compassionate self-talk can be used to transform any negative
emotion. Here's an example of how I used it to overcome fear.

1. Admit that you are fearful. "I'm feeling fearful about leading the
group. Even though I know what I'm doing, I still feel nervous."

2. Now switch to the voice of self-compassion. Reflect back the feelings, and reassure yourself that it's normal under the circumstances. "I understand that you are feeling anxious. It's normal to feel this way. Lots of people feel nervous when speaking in front of groups."

3. Reframe the situation in a positive light. "Your nervousness shows how much you care about people and that you want to do a good job."

4. Give yourself encouragement. "You're a good person with lots of knowledge to share. I know you'll be fine. You are always learning new things and getting better at communicating with others."

5. Now switch back to speaking in the first person, and express positive feelings. "I'm excited to have this opportunity. I'm grateful for my job because it gives me lots of opportunities for personal growth."

Notice how this seems to be a conversation between two different people. It starts with the "I" who is feeling fearful, followed by the person who is giving encouragement, and then ends with the "I" who is now feeling more positive.

You can use this basic format for any emotion - sadness, anger, guilt, shame, confusion or frustration.

Mirror Practice

One of my favorite ways to practice compassionate self-talk is to say something nice to myself every time I look in a mirror. Here are some simple steps for this practice:

1. Look into your own eyes.

2. Say something kind or encouraging.

3. Do this for the rest of your life :)

When I go into a public restroom, I often find myself observing how other women look at themselves in the mirror (if they look at all). It saddens me when I see a woman frowning at herself. I can almost hear the critical voice in her head.

As my teacher Bill Harris says, "Awareness is everything." The more aware we are of the voices in our heads, the more control we have over what we say to ourselves.



Compassion for Everyone

The way you talk to yourself affects how you communicate with others. Even when you don't speak your thoughts out loud, people can feel the vibration of your energy.

Compassionate self-talk is a way to train yourself to communicate more compassionately - starting with yourself. A person who is at peace with their self will be at peace with everyone.

"The biggest embrace of love you'll ever make is to embrace yourself completely. Then you'll realize you've just embraced the whole universe, and everything and everybody in it." ~Adayashanti