They always describe me as shy, sad, emotionless or serious.
I'm a mix of apathy and introversion. I suspect my apathy is caused by bitterness.
I have a hard time joining conversations because I have nothing to add to them.
I could be hanging out with other people for hours and not say a single word the whole time while they're going off with their small talk.
What do?
They always describe me as shy, sad, emotionless or serious.
I'm a mix of apathy and introversion. I suspect my apathy is caused by bitterness.
I have a hard time joining conversations because I have nothing to add to them.
I could be hanging out with other people for hours and not say a single word the whole time while they're going off with their small talk.
What do?
I suspect that you are boring.
I also suspect that you may be overcompensating social anxiety by acting like you are desinterested, too good, too edgy, too intelligent, too special, too non conformist etc.
The most important part is break with your habits and make new experiences. If usually you don't say much, try to chip in, start a new topic, open up etc. Obviously you suffer from the way you are acting, so change it. It will feel awkward and very stressful in the beginning but it gets easier.
The point of small talk is moreso to try to establish a social flow. The conversations work on such a basic level that it works to establish streamlined common ground topics while giving their brains time to warm up to bigger talk. Conversation on the smaller end can also provide natural prompts for more organic conversation following it, which is why Ice Breakers can be an effective strategy for some people.
Sometimes there isn't really much to talk about, yet the act of conversation itself could still feel good. It also gives room to see how people respond to stuff without risking things that go beyond the shallow end. It gives a chance to feel things out while trying to establish a connection.
I find the hardest part of a conversation to be starting it, as at that point there's tons of room to freeze up from too many possibilities. Once in the conversation though it's not so bad, they give cues about the things they're about or into enough to assist the talk.
Food tends to be a good bridging topic, music too.
They always describe me as shy, sad, emotionless or serious.
I'm a mix of apathy and introversion. I suspect my apathy is caused by bitterness.
I have a hard time joining conversations because I have nothing to add to them.
I could be hanging out with other people for hours and not say a single word the whole time while they're going off with their small talk.
What do?
I suspect that you are boring.
I also suspect that you may be overcompensating social anxiety by acting like you are desinterested, too good, too edgy, too intelligent, too special, too non conformist etc.
The most important part is break with your habits and make new experiences. If usually you don't say much, try to chip in, start a new topic, open up etc. Obviously you suffer from the way you are acting, so change it. It will feel awkward and very stressful in the beginning but it gets easier.
If all I had was social anxiety, life would be good.
They always describe me as shy, sad, emotionless or serious.
I'm a mix of apathy and introversion. I suspect my apathy is caused by bitterness.
I have a hard time joining conversations because I have nothing to add to them.
I could be hanging out with other people for hours and not say a single word the whole time while they're going off with their small talk.
What do?
I suspect that you are boring.
I also suspect that you may be overcompensating social anxiety by acting like you are desinterested, too good, too edgy, too intelligent, too special, too non conformist etc.
The most important part is break with your habits and make new experiences. If usually you don't say much, try to chip in, start a new topic, open up etc. Obviously you suffer from the way you are acting, so change it. It will feel awkward and very stressful in the beginning but it gets easier.
If all I had was social anxiety, life would be good.
' I am so special, no one gets me' xD
I suspect that you are boring.
I also suspect that you may be overcompensating social anxiety by acting like you are desinterested, too good, too edgy, too intelligent, too special, too non conformist etc.
The most important part is break with your habits and make new experiences. If usually you don't say much, try to chip in, start a new topic, open up etc. Obviously you suffer from the way you are acting, so change it. It will feel awkward and very stressful in the beginning but it gets easier.
If all I had was social anxiety, life would be good.
' I am so special, no one gets me' xD
Ah you resorted to childish antics because you have no logical argument to make...
Thanks for the supply anyhow, loser.
They always describe me as shy, sad, emotionless or serious.
I'm a mix of apathy and introversion. I suspect my apathy is caused by bitterness.
I have a hard time joining conversations because I have nothing to add to them.
I could be hanging out with other people for hours and not say a single word the whole time while they're going off with their small talk.
What do?
don't try to be someone you're not
nothing worse than someone who talks just for the sake of it
I don't like small talk either. It can make things awkward but it's good filler sometimes.
Small talk can be ignored if you start with something new regardless.
Unless this is a self-esteem issue, you're not interested in the people you surround yourself with. If you agree in conversation or are interested in the discussion but still have nothing to say, then you have an issue.
Just talk at your own rate. Anyone who listens is worthy of you.
Fried made a solid point, sounds a bit like you're trying to cultivate a victim persona and you got overly defensive kek
Golden Eagle said:Just talk at your own rate. Anyone who listens is worthy of you.
This is extremely important to learn now than to painstakingly forge through experience. Talk about what interests you and anyone that doesn't take the time to listen and understand you is not worth your time. Dont be narcissistic though, relationships are give and take. So, sometimes you have to listen to the other person even if it doesn't interest you.
Allure said:I have a hard time joining conversations because I have nothing to add to them.
If when you do try to say something or strike conversation on a topic and they completely ignore you, this is another example of them not showing respect for you. If your friends do not respect you then you need new friends.
If this is simply because you have no insight on the topic, then that's fine. Wait until you do or wait for a moment when you can steer the conversation to a topic that is related and interests you.
