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how do you stop hoping that someone will let you fix their wrongness ?


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and I do not mean small changes but like entire life perspective changes that would lead to both of you being able to be in a respectful and self and other people loving relationship  (not based on looks or shallow stuff such as excessive material possessions and money and so on)  k so how do you stop hoping that a "greedy selfish narcissist" will see the light so to speak and begin to have similar values such as unconditional love,  compassion,  attempting not to harm yourself or other people,  being a healing influence,  breaking addictive patterns and exchanging them for healthy ones such as taking care of the earth instead of hoarding money  genuinely loving yourself and other people instead of secretly hating your true self and energy vampirizing other people

 

how do you give up hope when you feel so much better and happier having new values that you did not used to have but now you do and you want a specific person to become the opposite of who they are presently choosing to be so that you can have a harmonious peaceful pleasant relationship with them ?

 

I am struggling with knowing that so many people are harming themselves and other people but have been subconsciously engaging in energy vampirism so that they do not really have to feel the damage that they are causing to themselves and other people  (and if they had no choice but to feel it like empaths do they would want to stop doing this so that they would not be feeling so much torment and suffering)  but they are not empaths and maybe it was by choice that they chose to lock away and ignore their empathic abilities  (probably because of trauma)  in exchange for energy vampirism

 

but what if you thought that there might be a way to restore their empathic abilities and teach them how to protect themselves from the potentially painful and tormentful effects of trauma and once you figure it out you hope that they would let you restore their empathic ability and then both of you could be happy together instead of you just moving on and finding someone who already values their empathic abilities ?

 

it has to do with the empathic desire to reduce pain and torment and wanting to be such a powerful healing force that you can heal even the most sick narcissists and psychopaths out there  but then like you realize that you need to keep learning how to be the most healing influence that you can be to even be able to heal the person that you hope would change for you to have your same values and all of that  "the truly good and wise and beneficial values that have no shame or guilt attached to them and you do not have to abuse or take from other people in order to feel free of shame and guilt either values"

 

yeah lol how do you stop being distracted by someone who is doing everything "wrong" from an empathic perspective?  so much so that it distracts you from focusing on your own life purpose  like the "wrongness" just stays stuck in your head like a constant alarm that that person needs to change right now so that everything can feel okay and right in the world ?  except the world would still be messed up even if you had that person on your team but at least you wouldn't be alone anymore and you saved someone from all of their wrongness and made all of their wrongness into rightness

 

 

last edit on 2/15/2023 4:34:43 PM
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the reason to stop hoping might be because every morning you wake up and see that your desire still has not happened-  but how do you stop feeling addicted to wanting it to happen ?

 

 

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Perhaps your struggle with letting others be themselves is your own wrongness? 

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Perhaps your struggle with letting others be themselves is your own wrongness? 

 

fine I accept the freewill of all to do whatever they desire to do  but as an energy healer I will be influencing the spiritual realms in attempts to promote health and wellness and that is unavoidable  and I do not know what promoting health and wellness in all of the energies and spiritual realms is supposed to look like yet I do not have a clear vision and understanding soo I am going to pray for one

but today has been a healing day that is for sure and I have been feeling all sorts of energies moving through my body elements other spiritual realms and so on  I seem to be able to be in my world and the spirit world at the same time and I have always been doing that but I was not conscious that I was doing that and now that I am conscious of it I have much more insight and focus and understanding and I am flowing with all that is

 

 

last edit on 2/15/2023 10:44:00 PM
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I am feeling like melting and becoming one with everything but am also feeling a little scared of letting go of control of my body

 

 

last edit on 2/15/2023 10:36:11 PM
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As a healer, it is moreover your duty to help them find their way in a way that has them presume it was their own idea. You would need to perspective take their lives to learn their linguistic codex, which with that set of terms could be used to help them take better paths. 

If you simply give them the answers, many may turn it away over how it was given to them rather than found themselves. Being an example for others to model off of, and a resource for people tends to accomplish more as a Mentor than one could hope to accomplish as someone's Master or whatever. 

A lot of making the world a better place is a matter of transference, recognizing that what you put into the world multiplies within it. This is why the role of a Teacher is a huge responsibility. 

If you end up jumping into Videogames at any point, I have some good titles for Streamlined Philosophy. 

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last edit on 2/15/2023 10:45:05 PM
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Art Imitates Life, and Life Imitates Art



The Jedi writings do a pretty good job at detailing the ideals of Right vs Left Hand Paths

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As a healer, it is moreover your duty to help them find their way in a way that has them presume it was their own idea. You would need to perspective take their lives to learn their linguistic codex, which with that set of terms could be used to help them take better paths. 

If you simply give them the answers, many may turn it away over how it was given to them rather than found themselves. Being an example, and a resource for people tends to accomplish more as a Mentor than one could hope to accomplish as someone's Master or whatever. 

A lot of making the world a better place is a matter of transference, recognizing that what you put into the world multiplies within it. This is why the role of a Teacher is a huge responsibility. 

 

soo perhaps I should only try to heal the energies and spiritual realms that ask for healing and wisdom while also provoking them to ask the right questions that will lead them to experience healing and insight  but the problem is this-  all energies have their own agendas soo if you heal an animal from a parasitic infection let's say then the parasites die off  soo how do I prioritize what to heal  this is the ultimate shaman wisdom right is prioritizing what to heal  I suppose that it makes sense to only heal the energies that purposefully communicate with you to be healed and it still has to be taken into consideration how healing one energy will take away the "food source" of the energy that is causing the illness

 

and for me personally I would prefer not side with the parasitic energies over the energies that are able to experience love and empathy and compassion  and I am wondering if this is healthy or not  it seems healthy and right but is it really healthy and right that is the question because how will it impact everything else in all that is ?

 

 

last edit on 2/15/2023 11:00:06 PM
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healingqueen said:
soo perhaps I should only try to heal the energies and spiritual realms that ask for healing and wisdom while also provoking them to ask the right questions that will lead them to experience healing and insight

It is a lot easier to heal people who actually request it, yes. They in that one area are at least more open-minded and seeking of change, saving you the effort of pushing through some of the harder steps. 

To be helped, people first have to recognize the problems in the first place, then they need to be willing to accept help. If someone is already looking for help then you only have to be a resource for them. 

but the problem is this- all energies have their own agendas

Then learn them and watch their interactions. 

It's what Psych did, what Astrology did, what Mentalism did, and what other fields did before those were founded too. 

A lot of faiths go on about Emptying Your Cup, to forego ego to be more receptive to others' egos, but enough of you needs a strong foundation to not risk becoming them. Many stories of healers have someone get better while the healer acquires their sickness, meaning the healer must be that much stronger to house it. 

and for me personally I would prefer not side with the parasitic energies over the energies that are able to experience love and empathy and compassion and I am wondering if this is healthy or not it seems healthy and right but is it really healthy and right that is the question because how will it impact everything else in all that is ?

Everything is Give and Take, as even Parasites have something to return to the Universe don't they? It's all about Transfer, and even Leeches can bleed someone of venomous blood to heal the patient. 

Many opt to avoid all the drama altogether by reducing their Carbon Footprint, trying to leave no impacts on the world over how every choice costs something elsewhere. 

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last edit on 2/15/2023 11:09:24 PM
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soo if you heal an animal from a parasitic infection let's say then the parasites die off soo how do I prioritize what to heal

Healing is a direct and causal responsibility, just as much as Harm is. 

Who you choose to help will live on to do as they would, rather than continue on as they would have otherwise. If you heal a murderer, and he murders thirty people, then you are causally responsible for their action in a Big Picture sense. 

Not all Healing is Good, just how not all Harm is Evil. They are both tools of Intention, and even in Biblical works Satan can be a Healer of sorts through different tools. 

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