I would like to hear what your husband thinks about this and what will he be doing for your birthday.
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Understanding each others expectations is very important. Don't you agree? She went nuts on his birthday (in a good way) and maybe he's more chill. If my gf did all this I would be like whoa. It's great and all, but,but,but... don't expect me to reciprocate, at least not to that level.
The thing about a gift is it's a gift. Gifts are free. There is nothing you have to do in exchange or it's not a gift anymore. Everything that I did was a gift.
They do have a way of setting a precedent for most people, like they have to live up to where the bar was set.
Br has done nice things for my birthday, he simply asks me what I want and if it is within reason what I tell him, we typically do it. It usually consists of a romantic dinner at a Thai restaurant, a gift from the thrift store, flowers that have been picked, and a trip to the park, and a candle stuck in a nice food item for me to blow out I very much like the same exact thing every single year. In other words, he likes surprises but I do not. Sometimes we also rent a movie if we have time. Or maybe that year I feel like ordering a pizza. I typically plan my own birthdays