I also did not see her being rude, you were rude and she stood up for herself.
all I remember is saying I would rather see you alone without people I don’t know
You can check your chat logs you posted for us to see what else happened.
Edit: Or I can take a few screengrabs:
At this point it feels like you're trying to invalidate her "queer" label so that you don't have to feel gross having been her friend. You even as you get more heated begin accusing her of heading towards a divorce, like wtf?
Seriously, it's like when people try to be like "White people and black people should remain separated to make things less complicated" while having one black friend kept at arm's length.