I appreciate people healing and recovering from toxic behaviors what becomes confusing is what is toxic behavior and what is not and where do we draw the line on what is somewhat socially acceptable toxic behavior and what is not because I feel like none of us can be perfect angels at everything, but how nontoxic can we within reason become ?
Very nontoxic.
and what about people who struggle with learning and mental and physical disabilities that they have limited control over ? Are they toxic just for being disabled and limited in some ways, even if they are not purposefully within their control harming themselves and other people ?
That depends, but yes they are. They are a burden to their caretakers. No one wants a retarded child or if someone knew having a child meant it would come out disabled, they would pass on it.
and what about people who do have control over themselves enough to not be harming themselves and other people, but choose to do it anyway ? can it be proven that they do in fact have control over these toxic behaviors and could stop if they were incentivized enough ?
I think so.
and what should be done if they continue to not control themselves if it has been proven that they could control themselves if they desired to ?
It's not really a matter of what should be done, but what will be done.
The world has a way of granting people what they sew. If your practices grant you poverty, then poverty will become the way of you.
Oddly enough, if you're a baglady, I think the world will have a soft spot for you. I once saw this crazy bag looking lady in a grocery story, she seemed to be having some kind of breakdown and she was cursing at people walking by her, and I still felt sorry for her. That doesn't mean I'm going to get her all cleaned up and try to get her back on her feet again.
Whatever you do. or however you're received in the world, you can always move on and start over from scratch, with a clean reputation, (except for Amber Heard) and not make the same mistakes that granted you the undesirable... whatever it is, feed back.