Okay then lets give this a look, as I feel like we're at least friendly or familiar even if you wouldn't call me a friend.
At the very least it might help refine the list further.
1. feels desire to listen to me
Okay been doing that one, but you seem to hate it?
The only help you want is enabling, you've had help that you have otherwise rejected over how it wasn't on the same wavelength or whatever.
and acts on those desires
I'd think it'd be more mean than anything to enable your delusions, wouldn't someone who cares be trying for reality checks or at the very least an honest presentation of their concerns or divergences in opinion?
2. treats me with respect and as an equal
Easy to do when we're all worthless (self included).
I see honesty as showing respect, while I see playing along like how someone treats a child. Even the whole "If you have nothing nice to say, don't say anything at all" rule is overt omission.
and wants to share their life and resources with me and live with me in real life
Be honest, with how often you talk about shit and farts how smelly is your home?
(respect includes a serious attempt at refraining from triggering depression and anger- criticism should be genuinely realistically achievable based on what I say that I am and am not capable of and respectful of my boundaries and limits and constructive)
Examples?
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