I lost a friend

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on 6/1/2022

Posts: 180

Today I started ghosting a friend because I felt really insecure because he didn't message me for a month. I never e-mailed him or contacted him to let him know I should reach out but I felt hurt because it took him a month to reach out. I previously blocked him and he contacted me via a friend to ask what happened and I told him that I blocked him because I was angry that he didn't reply to my messages and since then he's been very receptive and coureous and always replies. But I just feel like he should contact me of his own volition.

I feel very insecure in myself and I feel like people are my enemies unless they constantly do things for me. I know its a problem but I can't help but feel insecure. How can I fix this problem?

by Tryptamine

on 6/1/2022

Posts: 4653

There’s only so much you can do about what they do of their own volition; seems better to make friends where that’s not an issue.

As far as your internal problem is concerned, maybe get to a place where your state is less reliant on the sort of input you get, at least your negative states.

by Friedrich

on 6/1/2022

Posts: 1331

Do therapy.

by Blue_Jay

on 6/1/2022

Posts: 270

Not a fan of insecure people. They tend to manifest inflated issues out of thin air and punish others which is a drag for their "friend", and their flooring is made of eggshells.

Unless your friends are tools I'd advise against taking any revengeful stance against them over petty issues. It'll backfire on you in some way shape of form. This time your friend is laying it on too thick in response to your weakness and accommodating you in shameful and awkward ways.

Maybe he's being spiteful, or maybe he's being a doormat. Though being spiteful fails the same, it would be more attractive in my opinion, otherwise you'll think of him as a pushover and lose respect for him for being lame.

When you feel insecure don't go burning bridges or pissing people off. Remember people don't have to be like me to see your foolery. Refraining from taking drastic actions will eliminate other weights like regret, and the potential of guilt, or people treating you like a child prone to tantrums like your boy there.

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