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Basic stuff.

Unhealthy boundaries are easier to describe. They have that extra kick to them. 

Golden_Eagle said: 

Basic stuff.

Unhealthy boundaries are easier to describe. They have that extra kick to them. 

no like actually go into detail,  because likely everyone will have varying understandings of them

Many years ago I went to a ladyfriend's Sister's place. They had guests over. The boy had thee new... PlayStation 3.

Right.

Ninja Gaiden demo  ? Sick, this is the new port of MY GAME.

Okay. When it's my turn I'll show them ! 

Watch this.

My turn comes. I Kung fu the first 2 enemies with style. Kid goes "button mashing". I said boy, imma destroy this demo.

Then

Lady friend is like, "Tony can you come to the kitchen we need your help."

I say bullshit lady, you can ask anyone to go, it's my turn to try this PlayStation 3. She get's pushy. I say out loud, I'll walk over there and it WILL be a false alarm.

The house was a mansion so it took at least 10 seconds to walk to the kitchen area and back.

I legit walked, people running around in there like ants, and spun around from the time the lady said "Oh"

I returned and they started playing Motorstorm.

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Something soooo small. Told me a lot about this person. Like, why was it so important to prevent me from trying that thing ?

When boundaries are overstepped, it's an intruder alert. They will go as far as to fight you, to prevent you from succeeding. If boundaries aren't respected we can't sustain. 

I don't think that answers your question either. 

Back to basics. Healthy boundaries are undisturbed ones.

JesusistheKing said:

how would people from this forum define "healthy boundaries" ?

Patience and Reciprocity. 

JesusistheKing said: 

just curious what all of your opinions are on this,  especially those of you that have studied psychology which I think is most of you

 

 

 I dont know how to tell you this but you should stop forcing your fart on us enough is enough..oh geez..i said it..

Golden_Eagle said: 

Many years ago I went to a ladyfriend's Sister's place. They had guests over. The boy had thee new... PlayStation 3.

Right.

Ninja Gaiden demo  ? Sick, this is the new port of MY GAME.

Okay. When it's my turn I'll show them ! 

Watch this.

My turn comes. I Kung fu the first 2 enemies with style. Kid goes "button mashing".

I said boy, imma destroy this demo.

Why do I believe the kid? 🤣

Then

Lady friend is like, "Tony can you come to the kitchen we need your help."

I say bullshit lady, you can ask anyone to go, it's my turn to try this PlayStation 3. She get's pushy. I say out loud, I'll walk over there and it WILL be a false alarm.

Couldn't you just pause the game? 

The house was a mansion so it took at least 10 seconds to walk to the kitchen area and back.

I legit walked, people running around in there like ants, and spun around from the time the lady said "Oh"

I returned and they started playing Motorstorm.

So you blame the lady friend rather than those who usurped your turn, and you don't look at how your walking speed might have contributed more to why your turn was forfeited? 

It was just a demo anyway. 

Something soooo small. Told me a lot about this person. Like, why was it so important to prevent me from trying that thing ?

When boundaries are overstepped, it's an intruder alert. They will go as far as to fight you, to prevent you from succeeding. If boundaries aren't respected we can't sustain. 

Bruh just press Start. 

JesusistheKing said: 

Golden_Eagle said: 

Basic stuff.

Unhealthy boundaries are easier to describe. They have that extra kick to them. 

 

no like actually go into detail,  because likely everyone will have varying understandings of them

 

 

 I usually start with physical boundaries.

Some people don't even get that we're hardwired to stay at least 2 to 3 feet away from each other.

Beyond that, in the getting-to-know-you phase, light pats on the hand or shoulder are ok as we get to know each other.

Gentle questioning about topics that don't involve removing one's clothing are ok. (Which means no sex and no excrement. Anybody who's not a doctor who thinks it's ok to ask questions about these things is just r00d  :P) I can listen to somebody talk about themselves, as long as their statements don't involve sex or excrement. I find it particularly annoying when ppl pester me to talk about sex or diarrhea and I say "no no no" for however many weeks or months, and then I make up a load of bs to shut them up or dupe them into saying smthg even dumber than what they were tryinta bait me into saying, and then they take that as their cue to tryta make it look like the gross talk was my idea all along.

Just ew lol 

It is kinda funny to watch them tryinta insult a fiction, tho  :D

I'm referring to some idiots on these psycho forums, ofc. 

If somebody talks like that to me irl, I usually walk away bc I don't talk to ppl like that if I can help it.

So beyond "stay 2-3 feet away, only light pats on the hand and shoulder and no poopy talk in the beginning" the boundaries will shift a little as people get to know each other. Some people don't like to talk about politics. Some people don't like to talk about family.

Did you have smthg more specific in mind?