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How hard is it to Care?


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On my two month road trip I met a surprising amount of people and heard a lot of stories, but often they'd have moments where they constantly had to affirm that they didn't have feelings, that they didn't care. 

 

"I Don't Care" has to be one of the most toxic phrases against Introspection, a way to bury their feelings instead of growing to understand them, and often when I would explain why caring is harder to do that'd be like a lockpick for a bunch of buried shit they felt like they couldn't talk about with their friends. Groupthink keeps the notion alive, even with phrases like "I was just kidding" when it gets too personal to essentially say "We shouldn't care". 

 

What makes it so hard for people to care about stuff these days, or at least what makes it so difficult for them to admit to themselves? Why is caring seen as weakness?

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I personally try very hard to care. But I just do not or I do. Seems to not matter what I do. It just is or is not.

 

I mostly do not care about most things. But when I do care, I care more than others and usually obsessively.

It is very hard to care and it is even harder for me to do things I do not care about.

I'd rather care than not care. I would be far more passionate and motivated and probably do a lot more things.

 

My anger on this site has been fabricated by my intense want to care, even I believed I do care. However in the past year, I found out it was not real: I was faced with certain actions certain people did and I was supposed to be angry at it, but because I really liked the people, I couldn't care less, not even a little. I realized that it was all a fabrication.

This is how I was before I came to SC and at that time I wanted to learn to be like other people, so I emulated people I deemed normal and I liked, or parts of their personalities. I feel far more liberated now since I have learned how I can be normal and myself at the same time. I do not care and I never really did.

I care about other things and that care is real. I can tell now.

Cheery bye!
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Good said: 

I personally try very hard to care. But I just do not or I do. Seems to not matter what I do. It just is or is not.

I mostly do not care about most things. But when I do care, I care more than others and usually obsessively.

It is very hard to care and it is even harder for me to do things I do not care about.

I'd rather care than not care. I would be far more passionate and motivated and probably do a lot more things.

My anger on this site has been fabricated by my intense want to care, even I believed I do care. However in the past year, I found out it was not real: I was faced with certain actions certain people did and I was supposed to be angry at it, but because I really liked the people, I couldn't care less, not even a little. I realized that it was all a fabrication.

This is how I was before I came to SC and at that time I wanted to learn to be like other people, so I emulated people I deemed normal and I liked, or parts of their personalities. I feel far more liberated now since I have learned how I can be normal and myself at the same time. I do not care and I never really did.

I care about other things and that care is real. I can tell now.

You pretend to be angry to feel more in touch with humanity?

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Do you believe that if you try to care enough then one day you will, like Pinocchio?

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Do you believe that if you try to care enough then one day you will, like Pinocchio?

You called?

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Good said: 

I personally try very hard to care. But I just do not or I do. Seems to not matter what I do. It just is or is not.

I mostly do not care about most things. But when I do care, I care more than others and usually obsessively.

It is very hard to care and it is even harder for me to do things I do not care about.

I'd rather care than not care. I would be far more passionate and motivated and probably do a lot more things.

My anger on this site has been fabricated by my intense want to care, even I believed I do care. However in the past year, I found out it was not real: I was faced with certain actions certain people did and I was supposed to be angry at it, but because I really liked the people, I couldn't care less, not even a little. I realized that it was all a fabrication.

This is how I was before I came to SC and at that time I wanted to learn to be like other people, so I emulated people I deemed normal and I liked, or parts of their personalities. I feel far more liberated now since I have learned how I can be normal and myself at the same time. I do not care and I never really did.

I care about other things and that care is real. I can tell now.

You pretend to be angry to feel more in touch with humanity?

 No, i was angry, because i was supposed to care, its a by-product.

Cheery bye!
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Do you believe that if you try to care enough then one day you will, like Pinocchio?

You called?

 Talk about lurking. Jesus fucking Christ on ice skates.

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On my two month road trip I met a surprising amount of people and heard a lot of stories, but often they'd have moments where they constantly had to affirm that they didn't have feelings, that they didn't care. 

 

"I Don't Care" has to be one of the most toxic phrases against Introspection, a way to bury their feelings instead of growing to understand them, and often when I would explain why caring is harder to do that'd be like a lockpick for a bunch of buried shit they felt like they couldn't talk about with their friends. Groupthink keeps the notion alive, even with phrases like "I was just kidding" when it gets too personal to essentially say "We shouldn't care". 

 

What makes it so hard for people to care about stuff these days, or at least what makes it so difficult for them to admit to themselves? Why is caring seen as weakness?

 I got weird deja vu when I read this post, and then I saw your username. 

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