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i think you have to have an idea of what sort of situations you want to feel safe in first. do you need to feel safe around people at work? in making a big move? once you have some endpoints set, you can start thinking about getting from a to b

You are literally almost always safe dumbass. Stop overreacting to nothing.

Tim said: 

In my childhood I often felt very insecure and unsafe due to circumstances. Now I should be safe as my situation has changed a lot from childhood. My feelings also became less obsessed with fear and anxiety. However, I notice that I am still motivated by it and subtly am looking for safety. I feel like life is very unstable. It of course is. The question is how do I know or get myself to realize when I have gained enough safety? When do I have enough safety? So that I can move on and am less obsessed with it. How do I realize that I am safe now and can even handle unsafe situations?

 I always feel unsafe as well, which is why I wanted a husband. A guy to protect me and love me and never leave me. It’s like protection and security wrapped in one person. But now I have no hope.

Tim said: 

In my childhood I often felt very insecure and unsafe due to circumstances. Now I should be safe as my situation has changed a lot from childhood. My feelings also became less obsessed with fear and anxiety. However, I notice that I am still motivated by it and subtly am looking for safety. I feel like life is very unstable. It of course is. The question is how do I know or get myself to realize when I have gained enough safety? When do I have enough safety? So that I can move on and am less obsessed with it. How do I realize that I am safe now and can even handle unsafe situations?

 Parasympathetic nervous response is responsible mainly for this 

Grounding exercises help because it triggers that part of your brain to belief it is safe and sends proper signals to body thus calming it down 

my advice is be patient and keep trying little by little along side advice of docs and therapist 

it is okay to have instances where it’s not working but over time retrains your brain like a muscle to be relaxed 

it helps to do with someone who makes you feel safe or whatever helps like allow you to be distracted from your anxiety thoughts and more inmeshed in the moment 

it’s very hard at first so be patient with yourself forgiving compassionate 

it does take time to build and get stronger but just keep trying 

dont purposefully stress or trigger yourself or torture yourself but yeah, just, practice the techniques that jelo

you as much as you need to get you through and that will get stronger than the anxiety issue as you get better and more comfortable with your tactics and coping mechanisms 

your brain will go “oh, anxiety, I know how to handle that. No big deal.” 

and then the goal is eventually to have it not even really pop up that much at all because your brain is retrained now to understand these are not anxious situations any loner because you handled them so well

ChallengeSeeker said: 

Tim said: 

In my childhood I often felt very insecure and unsafe due to circumstances. Now I should be safe as my situation has changed a lot from childhood. My feelings also became less obsessed with fear and anxiety. However, I notice that I am still motivated by it and subtly am looking for safety. I feel like life is very unstable. It of course is. The question is how do I know or get myself to realize when I have gained enough safety? When do I have enough safety? So that I can move on and am less obsessed with it. How do I realize that I am safe now and can even handle unsafe situations?

 I always feel unsafe as well, which is why I wanted a husband. A guy to protect me and love me and never leave me. It’s like protection and security wrapped in one person. But now I have no hope.

 Therapy and recovery are possible 

I didn’t think so myself when I went into but it is 

unfortunately I waited until it was necessary or dire 

it’s a lot harder to do it that way probably 

it might be difficult at first or an inconvenience at the least but it’s worth it as you start to see restoration or reformation of self in places or ways you didn’t think were possible 

Blanc said: 

ChallengeSeeker said: 

Tim said: 

In my childhood I often felt very insecure and unsafe due to circumstances. Now I should be safe as my situation has changed a lot from childhood. My feelings also became less obsessed with fear and anxiety. However, I notice that I am still motivated by it and subtly am looking for safety. I feel like life is very unstable. It of course is. The question is how do I know or get myself to realize when I have gained enough safety? When do I have enough safety? So that I can move on and am less obsessed with it. How do I realize that I am safe now and can even handle unsafe situations?

 I always feel unsafe as well, which is why I wanted a husband. A guy to protect me and love me and never leave me. It’s like protection and security wrapped in one person. But now I have no hope.

 Therapy and recovery are possible 

I didn’t think so myself when I went into but it is 

 

unfortunately I waited until it was necessary or dire 

it’s a lot harder to do it that way probably 

 

it might be difficult at first or an inconvenience at the least but it’s worth it as you start to see restoration or reformation of self in places or ways you didn’t think were possible 

 what you have isn't treatable