Tell me exactly what tryp told you I would do?
He said you used to try to make him jealous to show how you were wanted. Then said times you would go so far as to flirt with others on purpose just so he would notice and remember your value.
Did he forget to mention he was talking to other girls at the time and that we would be fighting during those moments? That he would engage in those "notice and value" flirtations too?
In any case that was years ago and people can unlearn shitty behaviors especially when it's pointed out to them which is why I'm pointing it out to you.
If you have to try to force someone to see your value, they probably aren't the one for you.
Okay… but what if they have to be the one ?
Sounds like a cope and sounds like you're both going to be miserable if you continue this behavior