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whats your friendship tests/criteria?

that's a fun question. 

i dont carry out tests. but i look for signs of integrity and emotional maturity, or a lack thereof  

- listening vs talking (make it a game with some people to lead them through a question funnel and see how long it takes them to ask a genuine q back)
- pushing others down to elevate yourself
- getting defensive over feedback 
- deliberate politeness/courteousness (these things take a continuous awareness socially which i appreciate and also of your surroundings)
- sense of humour 

on that last note, it's fun to find out what different people find funny and looking for the angle that works for you both. really this goes for many differences between people and it is why despite all that, i try to get along with pretty much anyone 

Anyone who writes poems or threads to me are not friends.

Are they neat to hang with and do they enjoy similar things? Are they okay with me disappearing for long stretches of time and then reappearing and do we be vibing the same? 

Are they okay with neediness and cuddles occasionally and physical shows of affection and sometimes delusional obsessed ranting?

If they remember my birthday and I remember theirs.

hmmm yes this a fun question

Buttered Toast said: 

Anyone who writes poems or threads to me are not friends.

 lol

Lenalee said: 

Are they okay with me disappearing for long stretches of time and then reappearing and do we be vibing the same? 

 yeah, a level of unchangedness in the relationship the face of my changability is definitely a plus.

Xadem said: 

i look for signs of integrity and emotional maturity, or a lack thereof  

- listening vs talking (make it a game with some people to lead them through a question funnel and see how long it takes them to ask a genuine q back)
- pushing others down to elevate yourself
- getting defensive over feedback 
- deliberate politeness/courteousness (these things take a continuous awareness socially which i appreciate and also of your surroundings)
- sense of humour 

 those are a lot of things to be looking for, I don't think I'm that socially aware to notice those things all the time. but also surely everyone fails those to display your preferences in those criteria a percentage of the time.

I think I often notice how willing people are to be called out and then the ease in which they consider/admit they might be wrong/at fault/etc

how willful are they? how much will they stick to their guns/how much of a push over they are

are they willing to call me out too?

hmm and I suppose just how easy it is to talk to them, which is a convoluted kind of thing

Lenalee said: 

Are they okay with me disappearing for long stretches of time and then reappearing and do we be vibing the same? 

I'm so bad about doing this to people.