Fully accept that you're alone, and you will always be alone, that doesn't devalue you, neither puts you beneath people who're more popular, loved, or accepted, there's no "superiority" in simply existing and feeling.
It's irrational, there's no "being loved" > "being hated" and both < "being feared"
These are relative terms we provide to ourselves, situations and people to deal with our.
Needs.
Stop hoping, hope is a delusion and a distraction, have a solid pragmatic reason to depend your ESTIMATIONS not EXPECTATIONS on.
When you get an urge, a feeling, because the need to be hugged, loved, or connected, are natural human needs.
You can't simply switch them off like psychopaths do, however you can condition yourself to control them and redirect them.
For example:
"Look at this adorable girl, she looks so charming and she is smiling to me" the urge to smile back and speak hits you, maybe you get a mild erection, maybe you imagine her naked, maybe you want to share yourself with her.
But by doing so, you also actively prove that you're incapable of self controlling, you bend to the urge, and the result is:
You are not controlling yourself, your needs are controlling you.
I don't refer to machiavellianism here or weakness/strength "don't show your soft side or turn your heart into rock because you will be hurt/ used"
I'm saying that, put a limiter on these urges and emotions. Control them.
I am not referring to stoicism either, you're not ceasing reactions altogether, or accept anything. You mold your reaction to control the result.
As grim and bleak as it sounds, majority of people are different combinations and versions of insecurities, social conditions, race, income, and whatever other experience molded them till this point.
NPD thot in instagram/ tinder = daddy issues/ cock/ money/ comfy need for attention
Incel in instagram/ tinder = loneliness/ horniness - pussy/ acknowledgment by himself / other men
If you are this type of puppet, then this guide is probably useless to you. But assuming you're not.
Add some standards, Some measures, Some Patterns
Categorize everyone based on the most primal, brutal, bleak, shallow aspect of reality. But at the same time give them the chance without them noticing to prove they might be different.
Chances are, they won't be different. But that's not the point, the point is YOU.
Your emotions, your urges, your beliefs, are yours. If they allign with others too much, or if they don't it doesn't matter.
You need to enslave them, and use them as critical factors to determine if the person is worthy or not.
Doesn't matter how.
Test them/ judge them/ provoke them/ bait them as long as you're controlling it, it doesn't matter.
Now let's assume that even all that ultra stoicmachiavellianempath planning fails miserably and everyone is just pathetic.
Shit happens.
People or their acknowledgment are conditioned into society as the highest spectrums of accomplishment by taking advantage of the most basic of human needs.
Just don't fall for that trap.
