It's not like you've done anything to me.... I just hate you like I hate cats. Or crying children. My moral compass is telling me to be nice to you but my instinct is telling me to kick you....
Are you from California, by chance?
I can't really explain why I find you so annoying. Maybe it has something to do with me. I think you're.... Too oblivious to yourself. Do you, like, even think?
Sorry.
No, I think it's because I see you as a people-pleaser. I'm not really sure if that's an accurate assessment of your character. Are you a people pleaser?
You're the type of person who I imagine would never have an outbreak. You'd just.... de-escalate with humor. I'm surprised you haven't called me an asshole. You've just tried these passive-aggressive tactics, and then tried to... I don't know, make up with me? Why?
Do you dislike conflict....? Would you avoid it at a cost to yourself?
When was the last time you had a serious fight with someone? Your family doesn't count.
You seem very confused. What I appreciate is that while you are making evaluations of me, you question yourself about those evaluations. If nothing else, enjoy the chance to get to know yourself. I'm pretty sure you will.
I'm honored you've made a thread addressed to me. This is genuine, so don't let any paranoia of ego vulnerability go imagine that I fall prey to the same narcissistic satisfaction plaguing this forum. So, in honoring this, I will answer your questions, even though I don't want to. This isn't because it's you asking. It's just because it seems pretty pointless and unrewarding, but hey... I'm learning to take more chances.
Am I a people-pleaser? To some extent. Most of the time, it's simple courtesy. I prefer allies to enemies. People get what they deserve. But, sometimes, at least some measure of sacrifice or compromise is in order to maintain the peace. This is mostly a conscious choice. I don't find any satisfaction in targeting anyone's insecurities for e-rep or a warped sense of justice or just because of hurt feelings. When I say "I'm better than that" I mean that I hold myself to the standard I hope others would, treating people as I wanted to be treated. It's not always perfect, but it's a lot less of a hassle.
Of course I dislike conflict, but I'm not afraid of it. I do get some pleasure watching or making others in conflict, because it's also revealing and interesting. If there is really no need for the disruption in my life, I don't care to waste my time with pettiness. I'm not here for any other reason than curiousity, familiarity and entertainment; sometimes even to learn. The real trouble I have is that I often have already worked out and seen the path arguments and conflict will take, make a cost/benefit analysis, and consider the matter worth getting involved or not. Most of the time I honestly don't care. There are better ways to give attention.
The last time I was in a serious fight was a few months ago. You'll just have to take my word for it.
I don't think I'm "oblivious to myself". Any opinion to the contrary is likely one construed by the person holding that opinion. I'm still figuring things out, as anyone ought to be doing. Perhaps I'm farther along in certain areas, so by comparison it doesn't appear that I reflect that often. Do I think? If only I could share with you the noise that goes on in my head. I think too much.
I'm not from or in California. I'm actually originally from Canada.
I'm sorry you find me annoying. I don't have any animosity toward you.
He's just trying to fit in. He wants to try and talk eloquently and win what some losers here call 'e-battles' because he thinks that's what will help him rise in SC's primitive pecking order. At its root is really just the desire to be part of the group/liked. Nothing more complex with BT. I skip his posts most of the time.
See? Observe these people. Aren't they wonderfully predictable? Would you bother being genuine with them?
Spinach.
Am I a people-pleaser? To some extent. Most of the time, it's simple courtesy. I prefer allies to enemies. People get what they deserve. But, sometimes, at least some measure of sacrifice or compromise is in order to maintain the peace. This is mostly a conscious choice. I don't find any satisfaction in targeting anyone's insecurities for e-rep or a warped sense of justice or just because of hurt feelings. When I say "I'm better than that" I mean that I hold myself to the standard I hope others would, treating people as I wanted to be treated. It's not always perfect, but it's a lot less of a hassle.
At the least you aren't insecure about it. I dislike you a bit less after seeing your response. Maybe I was holding you in contempt without a good reason, without really understanding you.
I don't believe you, but I care a little less. I was expecting you to infuriatingly insist that nothing you do involves people pleasing... Maybe you're not the airhead I was expecting you to be. You're not completely oblivious to your own behavior. Maybe.
The last time I was in a serious fight was a few months ago.
What happened?
I don't think I'm "oblivious to myself". Any opinion to the contrary is likely one construed by the person holding that opinion. I'm still figuring things out, as anyone ought to be doing. Perhaps I'm farther along in certain areas, so by comparison it doesn't appear that I reflect that often.
No, it doesn't. But I do not think you are completely oblivious to yourself. Any longer.
Do I think? If only I could share with you the noise that goes on in my head. I think too much.
What do you think about?
I skip his posts most of the time.
That explains your psychoanalysis. But hey, at least I'm not going around narrating your story for you, in your topics, to convince everyone about how disinterested I am.
Hehe. BT is anything but dumb.
Loved his response to Basement Cat quoting Nietszche ;D
Actually, if you continue to read his posts, you'll see that he has the same Mastery of Subtext and Shade that Mr Sorry not Sorry, our Daddy Justin has going for him. Ryan Reynolds has the same way of being totally self deprecating, shocking without being vulgar (usually) but also adorable, all at once.
It takes a quick wit to see past the surface and understand that Canadian politeness doesn't necessarily mean doormat, and sometimes "thank you" means fuck off and die :)
