Love is almost like a paradox. It starts out like you think your in love, but then it either fades away or becomes real love.
Love is more so a set of descriptions rather than a specific thing, and so in a way, it is almost like a law of nature.
As a woman, I cannot speak for the way a man loves a woman, as I am not a man, and will never understand what it is to be a man, or how he might think, but I can say what it is to be a woman who loves a man.
New relationships do not have love, though people in the new relationships often think they are in love when they are not, especially the women. Men typically seem to understand the severity of love and have more hesitancy in using it than women. This isn't a rule, but rather something in general.
You don't love someone because, you don't love someone due to sex, or what you can get from them, or even those cute little freckles you love so much, this is just attraction, and attraction is separate from love. Attraction and love are often side by side when there is love, especially in young couples, but when we grow old attraction fades but love does not.
For example, if I got breast cancer and my boobs were removed, my husband would be less attracted to me, but he would still love me the same, and possibly even more because of the struggle we went through together from my cancer.
Love is a bond between two people that can grow with time, struggle, and understanding. In this way, love can be difficult to measure Because it is much like a spectrum
You don't love people BECAUSE, but you love people DESPITE. I love my husband DESPITE how arrogant he can get and he loves me DESPITE how crazy I can be.
If I loved him BECAUSE of his hair, or freckles, again that is attraction.
If I loved him BECAUSE I want something out of him, that is attraction and maybe even using him.
Men are friends first and lovers second.
Love is an emotional commitment
