The essay "Who's Afraid of Men Doing Feminism?", was a great piece. I was concerned or rather confused, about a particular section on the forth page where the author said he was raised, as all men are, to see sexual conquest as a right and to wear down a women's resistance and keep going despite that resistance. This concerned me greatly.
I grew up with two brothers, one younger and one older and my mom always told them to be nice and kind to women and that women did not owe them anything and that when they finally did have sex that it wasn't them getting anything, but the women giving them something.
She always told them that women have all of the power because they are the ones who chose the men they want to be with. It is just really weird for me to learn that men grow up hearing the opposite from who knows where. It makes me look at the world and the people in it differently.
Also on the same page was a great point that the author made about sexual harassment and how offices seem to only care to deal with it after it happens and not try to prevent it. Like it is inevitable or something. This really made sense to me because it made me realize that men don't really think about changing anything about their behavior or the way they see the world.
I think that men expect women to change and they feel they can not or will not change ever. My favorite part of this reading was about men's sense of entitlement. The author used the example of a talk show which had the title of a black women took my job.
He explained the issues with the "my" and it really resonated with me because it is a great rhetorical tittle/stance but it is also very problematic as it does imply entitlement. This also made me look at my own life and the way I think of everything as mine if I want it even if I have not worked for it or earned it. I have an all encompassing sense of entitlement in my life. I just realized that and how problematic that is. Overall this reading was very eye opening.