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c4 said: 

Turncoat said:

Sounds like you caught some feels. 

In a few weeks or months you'll probably wish you stuck with what you had.

 This is very possible. But to provide perspective, I have basically no feelings for my current gf. We've been dating since christmas and together for a month or two and there's just no spark, y'know? It's a relationship based off of sexual attraction. With sidegirl it's almost certainly infatuation but there's also a feeling of a deeper connection like she understands me, and it's worth breaking off my current relationship to pursue that and give it a go

A lot of why she might seem hotter is because she's your 'side girl'. 

Turncoat said:

Hahaha you still haven't fessed up about it?

Coward.

Nothing to gain from it, everything to lose. Why would I do something that puts me at a disadvantage? Neither will ever know

I tend to get more out of being honest with people, I can't even imagine myself roped into a situation like yours. 🤷

I've cheated before, but there was no reason for me to keep that to myself. 

Turncoat said: 

AlmightyJim said: 

do not offer commitment, do not verbalize it, she will get lazy once she feels she got what she was chasing for

Not a fan of the Netflix and Chill model? 

 no its cool, i am just telling him to not to give the carrot too early, or the horse (whorese) gets lazy

c4 said: 

Legga said:

Good luck.

What if she likes you because you're unavailable? It could be that there's an air of mystery around you that she's attracted to when wondering about what you're doing when you're not around, so while you're banging your other girlfriend. If you lose that, she may become unhappy. Depends a little on her personality, I guess. Some people are like that, not everyone.

At any rate, I think you should come clean to both of them. It's the right thing to do.

She's said she likes the mystery and danger she feels around me, so that's a valid observation. I'm expecting that as the initial mystery attraction subsides, it's replaced with a deeper attraction as she gets to know me better - we'll see how it plays out. Shit might not work but sometimes you've gotta try anyway

It would be the right and decent thing to do yeh, but I'm not a decent guy

 It would be a pretty shitty situation if she sensed that you have some feelings for her and put her #1, then she got bored of you and lost the spark and started pulling away from you, while the one you currently have becomes bitter over you branch swinging on her and decides she doesnt want you anymore. You might end up with ur dick in ur hand for the rest of 2021. Make your moves carefully.

AlmightyJim said: 

Turncoat said: 

AlmightyJim said: 

do not offer commitment, do not verbalize it, she will get lazy once she feels she got what she was chasing for

Not a fan of the Netflix and Chill model? 

 no its cool, i am just telling him to not to give the carrot too early, or the horse (whorese) gets lazy

AlmightyJim said:

It would be a pretty shitty situation if she sensed that you have some feelings for her and put her #1, then she got bored of you and lost the spark and started pulling away from you, while the one you currently have becomes bitter over you branch swinging on her and decides she doesnt want you anymore. You might end up with ur dick in ur hand for the rest of 2021. Make your moves carefully.

I did it man, it might have been a mistake in the long run but felt amazing in the moment

Asked her to be my gf and she said yes

The next day I broke up with my other gf and it was fucking horrendous she freaked out big time, but w/e its done and I am with qt3.14 ginger girl now who is also 21 and lets me violently beat her up and use her like a ragdoll and I am falling in love with this bitch already

Turncoat said:

I tend to get more out of being honest with people, I can't even imagine myself roped into a situation like yours. 🤷

I've cheated before, but there was no reason for me to keep that to myself.

Why not just tell them in advance if you're not going to try to hide it?

c4 said: 

AlmightyJim said: 

Turncoat said: 

AlmightyJim said: 

do not offer commitment, do not verbalize it, she will get lazy once she feels she got what she was chasing for

Not a fan of the Netflix and Chill model? 

 no its cool, i am just telling him to not to give the carrot too early, or the horse (whorese) gets lazy

 

AlmightyJim said:

It would be a pretty shitty situation if she sensed that you have some feelings for her and put her #1, then she got bored of you and lost the spark and started pulling away from you, while the one you currently have becomes bitter over you branch swinging on her and decides she doesnt want you anymore. You might end up with ur dick in ur hand for the rest of 2021. Make your moves carefully.

I did it man, it might have been a mistake in the long run but felt amazing in the moment

Asked her to be my gf and she said yes

The next day I broke up with my other gf and it was fucking horrendous she freaked out big time, but w/e its done and I am with qt3.14 ginger girl now who is also 21 and lets me violently beat her up and use her like a ragdoll and I am falling in love with this bitch already

 Great, the girl you dumped will never lose feelings for you and forget you unless she senses you stillwant her/need her / are unhappy with your current.

c4 said: 

Turncoat said:

I tend to get more out of being honest with people, I can't even imagine myself roped into a situation like yours. 🤷

I've cheated before, but there was no reason for me to keep that to myself.

Why not just tell them in advance if you're not going to try to hide it?

The cheating kind of snuck up on me, I didn't expect it and apparently neither did she. She'd spent some time with a mild crush on me that blossomed into something more forward years later once she discovered her sadism. 

Who I'd cheated on had also cheated on me like... twice before that from us having been an on-again off-again relationship multiple cycles in, so if anything my moment of cheating didn't feel as guilty. Even so she'd gone straight to me the times she cheated so I did the same thing back.  She didn't take it nearly as well as she'd expected me to prior once it was shoe on the other foot, but it's what ultimately got me away from that cycle. 

I then began dating the one I'd cheated with instead, us both having broken up with our fiances at the same time through one act of cheating. This rebound only lasted a little under two years or so, but it was eye opening.