i have problems having a relationship. i noticed that I am never really interested in the other person, but in the idea of having a relationship and the identity it gives me. I think this may be the core issue of why I am unsuccessful. Usually they like me but I dont like them really back, but I try to like them. Then I go in a relationship with them and after some time im really repulsed by them. This is a pattern that I really only notice afterwards.
what is it
It sounds like you're going in for the wrong reasons. The point of a relationship is usually supposed to be commitment and the summation of an emotional bond. If that was lacking, it seems pretty logical that you would get bored of that person at some point. Also if you are just using the person selfishly, I think it's easy to not have respect for them not being aware. Contempt, like what Med said.
Either take time to understand people first, or learn to care less about who is around you. The first option is probably better for blood pressure.
I agree with the previous faggots
You need a woman who is superior to you and who demands respect / attention from you, I also had the same problem of being cold and disrespectful to the partners I was dating until I found one who put me in my place and challenged me. You are dating worthless thots maybe, stop doing that
i have problems having a relationship. i noticed that I am never really interested in the other person, but in the idea of having a relationship and the identity it gives me. I think this may be the core issue of why I am unsuccessful. Usually they like me but I dont like them really back, but I try to like them. Then I go in a relationship with them and after some time im really repulsed by them. This is a pattern that I really only notice afterwards.
what is it
This isnt really unexpected coming from a narc like you.
