What do you think about all these videos on the Internet saying they feel bad that their sexuality is being marginalized because they don't want to date a transwoman/man?
This is an arguably muddy area, as in one hand it's them practicing a similar intolerance to that of those that have them defensive over how others won't consider them attractive, but in the other hand attraction can't really be forced (if you ignore Pavlovian Conditioning).
When within a society of intolerance, it's not too uncommon to see people not wanting to date someone who's a member of their own, less-tolerated group, such as when black people don't want to date within their own race, so it's not too crazy to figure that trans people might not want to date other trans people, similarly to how gay people don't necessarily have to embrace the gays on the other side of gender.
Self-appreciation and demanding the same rights as other people doesn't mean that they then have to appreciate others for those same things, even if to some that seems like it should be the case. If we're to argue in the name of personal freedoms, then they shouldn't have to like trans people in an attracted-sense any more than anyone else has to, especially when the concept is still in the process of normalizing to the point of still seeming squick even to those amidst going through it.
I suspect this issue will fade away naturally as transsexualism is further normalized.Does this actually happen anywhere? Are there many people who think men/women should have to be interested in dating a transman/woman or they're bigots? Or is this the alt-right blowing things out of proportion again?
It's exaggeration upon a real issue, but I'll restate that this issue is liable to fade as the concept becomes less fresh out of the closet. The crowds that won't date trans people are likely not the same people who are otherwise calling others bigots for not doing so, but naturally from it surfacing from the same ingroup it's easy for outliers to conflate the two as one, the sum of their parts similarly to how Alice was responding to the Black Lives Matter movement before she left this place.
I'll also state that I believe there are essentially different classes of trans people, ones with fairly loose labels:Blenders: These are the more classically trans model, the ones who do so to try to fit in with the other gender rather than as some sort of gender liquidation renaissance. This lot tend to be more intolerant when it comes to trans people who otherwise express the tendency and willingness to stand out instead of blend in with their peers. This group tends to see those who stand out as "giving their kind a bad name", preferring to try to ingroup towards the rest of humanity rather than stand out as some sort of special snowflake, socially cutting themselves deeply over how unattractive they feel while otherwise pushing a more lawful perspective onto the phenomenon.
Extremist: These are the more modern trans model, seeing their escape from gender more like busting down a door than picking a lock. Rather than express shame like a blender, they'll typically dress somewhere in between the two to challenge the status quo, usually with some other extras that express who they are as garnish. These are the ones who need to remind everyone who they are, why that makes them special, followed by a sense of entitlement over it while others are still otherwise adjusting to it still. It lets them be like the 'rebel without a cause' tropes to varying degrees, where the louder their attire and challenges against the status quo, the 'better' of a job that they must be doing.
Transtrenders: These tend to appropriate the extremist model from it being trendy, but they only half-ass the job similar to people who go to furry conventions with just some ears and a tail. This lot tend to pick up the label and take it in weird, Twitter-esque directions to be hipster, and tend to be more victim to the "100+ genders" phenomenon, rather than the four part dichotomy made between male-female and cis-trans.I'm more akin to Contra as a Blender rather than an Extremist, even if I logically agree with the purist aspects of their perspective. The only thing I really have against them are over how I feel like they aren't really 'trying' to look like their supposed gender, which offends my senses at points over my not being as adapted towards it yet, over how relatively jarring it's louder displays can be.
This phenomenon has a surprising amount of parallels to when homosexuality had come out of the closet more in the 90s, even down to the crowd-fears of the slippery slope, the peacocking of the formerly disenfranchised, and some of the profanity that surfaces from within these kinds of movements.
*Jessica Yaniv intensifies*
