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/u/TheGiraffeEater (3 hours ago): 

... Are in NPD's better in bed? (SERIOUS Inquiry)

The stereotype that "mentally ill people are better in bed..." Is there any validity in this statement? My Facebook NPD Mixed-Chat page seems to have a very mixed opinion.

As an NPD, I've realized that I am overly conscious & devoted to the "superiority" of my own sexual performance. (like... it's almost insulting of someone doesn't tell me I'm the best they've ever had) I feel like it's yet another part of life that requires a "performance," on my end... &, Putting all of my focus on my partner's pleasure, because.... That post-coitus validation is almost even more pleasurable than physically seeing someone react to what I do, itself.

AT THE SAME TIME. The best dick I've ever had was from my Narcissistic ex. I'm worried I will spend the rest of my existence having nightmares about how he successfully can steal someone's soul, just filling up their holes.

(Now, I'm all for ending societal stigmatization targeted toward narcissists... But, I have to recognize that stereotypes exist for a reason. He was definitely an NPD that has helped promote the idea that all narcissists are spawns of Satan...& I'm worried my existence will be spent salty about the fact that this literal demon disguised in human flesh is just roaming the Earth, with that devil dick. 🙄)

Some of the responses claimd that narcissists were extremely selfish lovers in the bedroom. Although that has never been my personal experience, I wanted to ask other NPD's how they perceived themselves, sexually, &, if they've had sexual relations with other narcissists, how exactly their performance chalked-up to be.

/u/CuntCounty (2 hours ago):

Just Venting

My boyfriend doesn’t seem to recognize how special I am and neither does anyone else and it really bothers me.

No amount of therapy will ever convince me I am equal to others.

I have a constant need to be told I am pretty and better than everyone else.

Everyone says I’m problematic but I think they should all put up with my shit because their opinions should revolve around how incredible I am.

It all makes me feel very lonely, sometimes I even feel I’m ugly too, but the feeling always goes away somehow.

I have friends but I secretly use them to feel better about myself, sometimes I think this is horrible but sometimes I think that’s how it’s supposed to be.

I hold true power and they will all see that someday and regret ever telling me I am just like everyone else.

I’m also told I have no empathy and I don’t know how to all of a sudden have that and I honestly just don’t care.

What good does empathy do for me, anyways?

I don’t think I’m a “sorry excuse of a person” like my boyfriend says I am, but sometimes I wish he would understand he’ll never be with anyone better than me... everyone should be grateful I am in their lives.

u/bims95 (20 hours ago):

I am working on an approach to „cure“ npd

Hi my dear individuals,

I am glad this day is becoming real. I am working on this for a long long time and I dont know how to express myself in a right way to reach people as much as possible who are ready to try out something new.

To my person: I am a 25 year old selfmade student, home-studying in diffrent subjects but mostly philosophy & psychology.

As I started to study „life“ and the human psyche, I realised that I had a lot of struggles within myself. You would call that depression, but I think there is more than just name of an illness. I followed the roots of that and I figured out how much I could relate my stagnant behaviours and beliefs to my parents and I realised that there is also a lot more behind of that association. I dont like to label, everyone is free to think what he/she might like to think, but you cant describe a whole individual with just one word.

So nevertheless I started to dive into the depths of narcissism and those behaviours, at the same time I started to meditate and through more awareness Ive found some very interesting insights.

I have experienced a lot of narcissistic behaviour by myself, and a few others, about two or three with more pathological patterns. As interesting as it is, the core of it is until now always the same: a big structure of lies towards the self to hide the personal truth from self but also at the same time losing every sensation through self.

The main point about greater narcissism is in my opinion greater empathy as a child that has not been replied by the caretakers (parents).

I understand that all those words like empathy or narcissism are really undefined. Like: I hit my elbow, and you hit yours. How can we define whos pain is more severe? So it’s all about personal perception, one kid perceives the world as it wants to perceive. At least we all are individuals with the core-basis called human-beings.

So here we come to the title of this post and why I wrote „cure“ with quote marks.

I think a cure with external resources for your internal sources of your external problems, will lead to nothing than suffering.

Everything comes from within. You are your own cure, if you let yourself into that experience, if you let go of control and surrender towards yourself, for yourself, in manner of true love.

So I can’t guarantee if you can cure that, but I can explain and exercise some profound methods like:

Meditation Contemplating (who tf am I?)

Self-Awareness (wtf Im doing all day?)

Object-relevancy (wtf why do I keep likening/hating persons in an instant)

Empathy (wtf do I feel all the time?)

If this resonates to you, feel free to give me a message, if this works out and If I can help, be sure you support me to find more and more insights into this, to specialise my further methods.

Sorry for my limited english skills, Im practicing everyday.

Narcs are curable but they need a severe narcissistic injury to break their ego and defenses completely before they can reach self-awareness and work on themselves

t. personal experience

MartinLooterKing said: 

Narcs are curable but they need a severe narcissistic injury to break their ego and defenses completely before they can reach self-awareness and work on themselves

t. personal experience

I don't know about that as a rule rather than a possibility. 

A lot of low functioning narcs will simply default onto a victim complex, assuming they are the most wounded and unfortunate rather than the most powerful and fortunate. Even many who assume they're self-improving can't really gauge the weight of their progress from their ego filtering their perceptions, simply optimistic about a bunch of nonsense with no real basis beyond the need. 

remember when I actually tried to launch a narcissist community in boards.zone?

In the hospital they usually come in with depressive symptoms if they are low intelligence. Then it depends on what type of narcissist they are in my opinion. A lot of my colleagues consider narcissists incurable. I think if they are unsuccessful, there is a chance. I also believe there are different types of narcissists. The prognosis is better for some of them. See for example Gabbards hypervigilant type etc. It is treatable.