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Okay, I’m a bad mom. You’re right, but I’m not a narc and you know what!? I think I’m doing pretty well for someone who had a baby with their rapist. I didn’t kill her, did I? I will stop drinking and pay more attention soon, but I didn’t want a kid to raise on my own. I wanted to get married and raise a kid with someone. It’s messed up to judge people for letting their kid explore life though. I just don’t want her to cry and she cries whenever I don’t let her do something. I will be better. Thanks for opening my eyes. I’m not a narc though because this isn’t how a narc would respond, just to let you know. 

Dr. Winner said: 

Okay, I’m a bad mom. You’re right, but I’m not a narc and you know what!? I think I’m doing pretty well for someone who had a baby with their rapist. I didn’t kill her, did I? I will stop drinking and pay more attention soon, but I didn’t want a kid to raise on my own. I wanted to get married and raise a kid with someone. It’s messed up to judge people for letting their kid explore life though. I just don’t want her to cry and she cries whenever I don’t let her do something. I will be better. Thanks for opening my eyes. I’m not a narc though because this isn’t how a narc would respond, just to let you know. 

 You're a narc 

You put yourself on the same level as jesus christ and want your kid to suffer in the same way narc mom's want their kids to suffer the way they did. Drop your baby off at a hospital or firefighter station, she doesn't deserve to have to go through your shitty parenting. You use your kid more as a prop than anything else.

Also that is definitely how a narc would respond.

I wish CS had just aborted the baby so I wouldn't have to feel so bad about hoping she kills the poor hellspawn with negligence before it becomes old enough to be evil.

thanks for calling me skinny btw, this probably means I'm better than you already. 

Poor kid, I hope CPS comes for the kid and CS fucks off back to Turkey or something 

PalePeach said: 

Whorechata said: 

This one is the saddest.

Yeah... this one got my attention in particular too. 

Seriously guys, if you want to see the problem before it's unfolded too far, check r/raisedbynarcissists. There's tons of stories told on there that give more than enough patterns to be wary of out of CS. 

CS is supposed to watch the baby and keep her safe, but in this situation you lied to avoid judgement from others when you should have had your daughter's well being as a priority. You should have treated her burn instead of hiding it. 

It does put her credibility into question, which following that has me questioning stories like how her daughter keeps knocking the tv "onto herself". 

We already know that CS according to her own self report is always drinking when she's on this website, and I've seen her typing take a hit as she's gotten smashed in the chat. It's also when she was drinking that she was willing to assault Jim (not in self defense) since now it'd not be her fault, but rather the alcohol. 

Her kid could end up with some weird fear of fire or general dangers or some shit as her mother hides the stories and gives her child complexes with emotional reactions, and all we'll hear out of CS is about how she's an okay mother because "she tries". Kids are hardwired to be extra sensitive to their parents shifts, imagine what it'll pick up modeling after her. 

CS will continue to make it about herself, about how she's seen in relation to how she's looking at herself that day, and her kid's about to have a PhD in her mother's complexes from a front row seat. People who have to cope with narcissistic parents can come out of it acting half-stockholm. Even if something is wrong the kid will "know better" than to talk about it. 

Whorechata said: 

It's a long running theme, she sees the baby in a situation where she can be hurt and does Nothing to remove her from that situation, she even thinks it's funny. 

Yikes. 

This is how kids come out of their homes thinking everything's their own fault. Here's a list of people reporting how being laughed at by their parents at key moments affected them.

Dr. Winner said: 

Okay, I’m a bad mom. You’re right, but I’m not a narc and you know what!?

It's sad that you find it easier to fall on being "a bad mother", yet defend tooth and nail about the narc thing. 

I think I’m doing pretty well for someone who had a baby with their rapist. I didn’t kill her, did I?

This if anything is a telltale reason for abortion and contraception legality, as with that all of this could have been avoided. 

I will stop drinking and pay more attention soon

This falls into your "...but I'm lazy" criteria, you have no actual plans to improve your behavior right now as you don't feel like it, but you won't feel like it then either. 

"Soon" is the same as "Tomorrow" in how it's always a day away, and after enough of them your kid will be a fucked up adult with you to thank for the privilege. 

I didn’t want a kid to raise on my own. I wanted to get married and raise a kid with someone.

Tough break, should have aborted it then. Not everyone is fit to be a parent. 

It’s messed up to judge people for letting their kid explore life though.

You're going to call this "exploring life"? 

Seriously, you need to look at r/raisedbynarcissists before it's too late. You're going to damage her. 

I just don’t want her to cry and she cries whenever I don’t let her do something. I will be better.

Yet you let her risk injury over and over, doing nothing while you tell us how funny it is? 

Thanks for opening my eyes. I’m not a narc though because this isn’t how a narc would respond, just to let you know. 

This is precisely how a narc would respond if it was raised within the cultural practices of learned helplessness. You're even making it overtly apparent how you're only responding this way because of how it's being focused on, and on some level you hope it'll serve to dismiss the conflict. 

PalePeach said: 

I wish CS had just aborted the baby so I wouldn't have to feel so bad about hoping she kills the poor hellspawn with negligence before it becomes old enough to be evil.

I honestly see the whole child thing as a sunken investment of identity. If they haven't even left the womb yet they haven't really lived life, and I'd see a kid dying at eight years old as more tragic than three. 

She's left for now, to return on the 27th. I wonder who's gonna watch her kid while she fucks gets raped by Tryp.