I never went through crack w/d since I only tried it a few times. If it is similar to H withdrawls I found forcing myself to keep busy worked. The first year was the hardest. I got that job at the wearhouse where I worked 60 hours a week, on weekends I slept bc I was so exhausted or I would hang out with friends I knew were clean. Tell your man to find something super time consuming, that is also important enough to motivate him to stay so consumed. Getting a job atm may be difficult bc pandemic but if he has ever enjoyed working with his hands he could stsrt learning carpentry or ceramics or another type of handy craft.
A guy I knew helped kick his addiction by getting really into refurbishing antique furniture. First all his mom's furniture, then he started going to antique markets and actions, buying dressers, bakers racks, anything inexpensive antique and pretty. He would sand off old varnish, fix hinges and replace rusty screws then repaint or revarnish and sell it to hipsters for a few hundred dollars.
Pretty much anything productive that is extremely time and attention consuming is good. Also tell him it only gets easier with time. I'm rooting for him
I never went through crack w/d since I only tried it a few times. If it is similar to H withdrawls I found forcing myself to keep busy worked. The first year was the hardest. I got that job at the wearhouse where I worked 60 hours a week, on weekends I slept bc I was so exhausted or I would hang out with friends I knew were clean. Tell your man to find something super time consuming, that is also important enough to motivate him to stay so consumed. Getting a job atm may be difficult bc pandemic but if he has ever enjoyed working with his hands he could stsrt learning carpentry or ceramics or another type of handy craft.
A guy I knew helped kick his addiction by getting really into refurbishing antique furniture. First all his mom's furniture, then he started going to antique markets and actions, buying dressers, bakers racks, anything inexpensive antique and pretty. He would sand off old varnish, fix hinges and replace rusty screws then repaint or revarnish and sell it to hipsters for a few hundred dollars.
Pretty much anything productive that is extremely time and attention consuming is good. Also tell him it only gets easier with time. I'm rooting for him
Thank you❤
Getting a job atm may be difficult bc pandemic but if he has ever enjoyed working with his hands he could stsrt learning carpentry
Just like Jesus!
"Idle hands are the devil's plaything."
...joking aside, I agree that distractions help the time pass.
Go to narcotics anonymous website.
For you, attend Naranon.
For him-
Detox and then rehab. 90 days at least, preferably a year. They have facilities that offer work, are free and don’t require insurance or even an ID- and allow him to leave the facility as he pleases- as long as he agrees to be subject to random drug testing.
After that, the rehab facility will set him up with a sober living or halfway housing situation when he feels he’s ready.
It’s important to continue NA meetings after rehab. NA will guide him through doing all the things he needs to do to stay clean, but I could reiterate the pinnacles of it if you wanted me to.
1. New associations. 2. Clean house (new phone, new address, restart button). 3. Support system 4. Service work 5. Step work 6. Gratitude 7. Taking inventory 8. Daily affirmations 9. Other reading materials 10. Sponsor 11. Daily meetings (and actually talk in the meetings) 12. Put recovery first 13. Put as much effort into recovery as you did into drug use 14. Apologies aka ‘making amends’ with your past 15. Goal setting and action plans
It’s great to get involved with a rehab facility doing work there with other recovering addicts. A recovering c**** addict I know, continues to lead NA meetings inside the prison he once was an inmate at.
and most importantly, just continually seek out recovery in anyway that works for you or will benefit your recovery ultimately. Whether that be, moving. Getting a new job. Or, seeing a therapist- getting a new therapist. Trying new types of therapy. Venting. Finding outlets for your emotions. Finding hobbies. Seeing a doctor to sort out internal wellness that may be affecting your mental health and ability to stay clean. Starting up an exercise program. Changing your diet. Getting better sleep. Finding inspiration in long time recovered people. Reading recovery related materials. Attending groups to sort out your PTSD, trauma, or whatever else you may struggle with like, adult children of alcoholics, dysfunctional families, narcissists, etc. Dealing with emotional dysregulation. Staying away from things that trigger you.
These are some great things I’ve learned from NA that I can state just off the top of my head that have helped me
1. Accept what you cannot control
2. Dismiss reservations and apprehensions about the recovery program
3. You cannot do it alone but with NA it is possible
4. Relapse is part of recovery
5. Live life on life’s terms
6. Reframe it to remind yourself what you have to be grateful for
7. The reason you want to use is because you are an addict
8. Secrets keep us sick
9. The opposite of addiction is connection
10. You are not unique to other addicts
11. Practice makes easier
12. Continuing to use is to prolong your own suffering
13. Self responsibility (addressing learned helplessness, low emotional intelligence, codependency)
Go to narcotics anonymous website.
For you, attend Naranon.
For him-
Detox and then rehab. 90 days at least, preferably a year. They have facilities that offer work, are free and don’t require insurance or even an ID- and allow him to leave the facility as he pleases- as long as he agrees to be subject to random drug testing.
After that, the rehab facility will set him up with a sober living or halfway housing situation when he feels he’s ready.
It’s important to continue NA meetings after rehab. NA will guide him through doing all the things he needs to do to stay clean, but I could reiterate the pinnacles of it if you wanted me to.
1. New associations. 2. Clean house (new phone, new address, restart button). 3. Support system 4. Service work 5. Step work 6. Gratitude 7. Taking inventory 8. Daily affirmations 9. Other reading materials 10. Sponsor 11. Daily meetings (and actually talk in the meetings) 12. Put recovery first 13. Put as much effort into recovery as you did into drug use 14. Apologies aka ‘making amends’ with your past 15. Goal setting and action plans
It’s great to get involved with a rehab facility doing work there with other recovering addicts. A recovering c**** addict I know, continues to lead NA meetings inside the prison he once was an inmate at.
and most importantly, just continually seek out recovery in anyway that works for you or will benefit your recovery ultimately. Whether that be, moving. Getting a new job. Or, seeing a therapist- getting a new therapist. Trying new types of therapy. Venting. Finding outlets for your emotions. Finding hobbies. Seeing a doctor to sort out internal wellness that may be affecting your mental health and ability to stay clean. Starting up an exercise program. Changing your diet. Getting better sleep. Finding inspiration in long time recovered people. Reading recovery related materials. Attending groups to sort out your PTSD, trauma, or whatever else you may struggle with like, adult children of alcoholics, dysfunctional families, narcissists, etc. Dealing with emotional dysregulation. Staying away from things that trigger you.
These are some great things I’ve learned from NA that I can state just off the top of my head that have helped me
1. Accept what you cannot control
2. Dismiss reservations and apprehensions about the recovery program
3. You cannot do it alone but with NA it is possible
4. Relapse is part of recovery
5. Live life on life’s terms
6. Reframe it to remind yourself what you have to be grateful for
7. The reason you want to use is because you are an addict
8. Secrets keep us sick
9. The opposite of addiction is connection
10. You are not unique to other addicts
11. Practice makes easier
12. Continuing to use is to prolong your own suffering
13. Self responsibility (addressing learned helplessness, low emotional intelligence, codependency)
Thank you❤
recovery and change are processes, not events. Getting better requires complete submission to the process
tysm Xadem such an insightful contribution
Getting a job atm may be difficult bc pandemic but if he has ever enjoyed working with his hands he could stsrt learning carpentry
Just like Jesus!
"Idle hands are the devil's plaything."...joking aside, I agree that distractions help the time pass.
any distraction suggestions Turncoat love?
