Hello :D
please don't kick me for this it's my first post! It's going to be super long!
I guess ASPD forum is closed? They can't have nice things because they always break them and bad energy stays forever on nice things. Did you ever buy a woman a diamond ring and smash it later and then get it fixed? That's what I'm talking about.
This is a handy guide to anyone suffering from narcissistic PD or really people with malignant narcissism. It's not really a joke or meant for laughs more like an informative guide to knowing yourself and making friends.
Anyway are you interested? Of course! Everyone loves kitties :D AND FRIENDS
First off yes I am isolated and really losing my mind but my headache has gone for now so I want to get this out there to the people who need it most. A kitty can help with isolation, but if you suffer from malignant narcissism you have very little hope of making friends with cats. :( It's SAD.
We all know how the story goes. You fill in the blanks ;) Lonely narcissist with abandonment issues and no friends is isolated and contemplating suicide. Tired of masturbating to webcam videos he's made of hookers who come to visit for money, sooner or later he seeks a fresh kind of pussy. A kitty, that is. Oh! What fun!!
So you get your kitty, bring him home quickly, lock the door, etc... and he loooooves you, but slowly over the first few hours you get a bit annoyed with your kitty crying for food and not leaving you alone, and you also get annoyed with your kitty's progressively escalating fear response (to you, specifically). You pet it so nicely. You put it next to you on the couch and it jumps away, but lets you pick it up again. You put it in your lap, it tenses up and you hold it down, and it runs away again, this time really springing from your lap. But, your sweet new BEST FRIEND is going to let you come pick him up again. So you scratch his chin and give him some treats and he loooooves you, and you pick him up and you guys snuggle.
You feel inside, that it's too late. Your new special relationship is already soured (again). You wanted a BEST friend but the cat is afraid of you. You know, from reading and listening to others, that you must be patient with the kitty and work on trust. It's upsetting that all the work can be undone with just a look. You feel if you even look at the cat the wrong way he will run away from you, so you grovel to him, you serve this cat, you SERVE this cat, ........ and it fears you. You are sad, rejected, alone, isolated, and want to die. You went out of your home and out of your way to go get this kitty to save him and fix his life and yours.
Soon, your new friend is slinking, creeping, watching you and avoiding you. You can no longer approach him, as he will slink away. Nevermind, you tell yourself, but the headache worsens. That's the malignancy, the REJECTION of this small insignificant meaningless waste of life burns you like acid. HOW DARE this little stupid brainless "&*(%$#" of an animal reject your well-intentioned and frankly super-sweet advances?
Keep trying, keep trying.
Until it happens. One day, it happens, and you don't want it to, but you can't stop it. Whatever it is, it happens. The cat rejects you. He jumps off your lap, claws you, scratches your wrists and palms, hisses... pisses.... shits on the wall, what has happened? A second ago you had a six foot power cord whipping the animal mercilessly spitting at it as it cowered in a corner shitting itself and fighting back. FIGHTING BACK ?! How dare it.
It's been said a cat is a bad pet for a narcissist, or psychopath. (Obvious exclusion notwithstanding), insofar as a cat is said to have a "strong will". I call it narcissism really. The real heart of the issue is that dang cat is MORE narcissistic than YOU. Its will is stronger. This, can not be allowed. As long as the cat possesses this type of spirit you will never gain the ascendancy you need to be happy together. You, of course, know deep down that you are capable of loving the cat, but you also know (and are GINGERLY CAREFUL) of the tender fact that it MUST reciprocate. You must dominate the cat.
After ten years of experimentation and observation I can tell you that a cat can be systematically dominated. It will submit, and it will come to love you. But, if you are a malignant narcissist, you do not have the inclination to come by this relationship naturally, because you do not see the reward as a close relationship developed over time and with mutual trust. That is exactly (literally the exact thing) what your life is void of. If you are a malignant narcissist, the reward will be in receiving love the way you want to receive it and of equal importance is that your love (the way you want to give it) is accepted.
To dominate a cat you must rationalize these things as logical principles.
- It is more narcissistic than you are; you must break its will
- Respect its intelligence because you are relying on the cat making a conscious choice
- Where there is mercy there is death
Wow! That third point is contentious. Really what I am trying to say is the art (science) of breaking a cat is very fine and although cats are terrific survivors they can be permanently injured or maimed if the incorrect amount of force or intensity is applied to a situation. If you screw up, you will probably have to kill the cat. This is a last resort of course as you probably spent money on it. You didn't go buy a cat to kill it, let's get that straight. Between you and me, I know that is not why you bought the cat. Not to harm it, abuse it, kill it. YOU bought it to LOVE it. I know. This is what others don't get. This is what makes you different.
The more practice you get breaking cats the less you will be forced to bury their dead bodies. Sooner or later, if you follow my methods, you will probably be able to stop killing cats altogether and live with them peacefully. Doesn't that sound beautiful?
Alright, the next thing to strategically implement is a respect for the animal's intelligence. Basically, you require the cat to make a conscious choice to be your friend and love you. To do this, you have to make sure the cat understands you are dominant in every way:
The cat must feel like you are capable of
...trapping it
....outsmarting it
.....anticipating its moves
........physically beating the piss out of it
...........handling it and especially restraining it
..............winning any confrontation / battle of will / physical fight
...................killing it in hot blood
and ..................killing it in cold blood
In that order. You must demonstrate your ability to perform all of these feats, in a convincing enough fashion that the cat understands it to be true. Once you accomplish the final feat, the cat's will is broken.
It is quite easy to develop your relationship in a more natural way after you have broken its will. :D :lol:
Always keep a cool head. The battle of narcissistic rage is no joke. You will overheat and get a fever if you do not periodically calm down. Do you find yourself without warning beating the cat with your fists with its head wrapped in a wet towel, as you curiously listen to the bones in its neck crack in a manner all too reminiscent of your own? Then breathe. Something has escalated this session from sweet petting and kisses into vicious strangulation.
De-escalate situations. Okay, so your rage has surged and you beat your cat. Whether you used a stick, a broom, your own teeth, or a powercord... you've reached this point where you're like Patrick Bateman chasing the hooker down a flight of stairs in the nude. Gain some composure. There is piss everywhere, scuffs and scratches, you're wounded, your cat has been kicked or hit the wall, he might be bleeding .... Open doors, close doors, put the crate somewhere close by, and get the situation under calm, cool, control.
Keep injuries invisible. This should go without saying but I should emphasize. Breaking a cat is not about "physically breaking" it, but psychologically breaking it. It is of vital importance that you do not actually snap its neck for example, only that you make the cat understand you are capable of doing so. As I said before, the goal is not to kill the animal. Also, there is the other little thing about being caught and reported to the authorities. The objective is to develop a long-term, loving relationship.
I'm sure you can follow the process here from Step A through to Step E. The final step is the hardest part, now, to communicate that you are actually cold-blooded. It is this ultimate realization that will chill the cat to its bones and force it to a submission you would have never achieved any other way. This is what took me such a long time to figure out. The cat expects you to act with rage, for that is why it fears you, and runs away, and hisses and swats. This is a reaction the cat is prepared to deal with, and killing a cat in a fit of rage is NOT considered a success story. The cat has to LIVE and what's more it must live WITHOUT being taken to the vet.
Alright, well
a lot of preamble! Holy cow! Will I even proofread this?
If it works...it works. It works. Trust me, it works.
