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you gotta do more than just take meds

Tryptamine said: 

you gotta do more than just take meds

People want a bandage, a one-step cureall, not a hill to climb. 

Blanc said: 

My life is choc full of problems and I just kind of avoid them by pretending they’re not that real or I just detach from it. #vent 

So... just like Delora and Med do? 

How are you supposed to develop a tolerance against emotional toil like this? 

Turncoat said: 

Blanc said: 

My life is choc full of problems and I just kind of avoid them by pretending they’re not that real or I just detach from it. #vent 

So... just like Delora and Med do? 

How are you supposed to develop a tolerance against emotional toil like this? 

well, i think the way my brain chose to cope was detachment, so now it's just something i struggle with. 

but i've been wondering the same thing myself. like how to people confront things and just get through it and be fine. 

i don't know how to do that. it's more difficult because of ptsd. 

i don't know if you can erase the effects of ptsd once you have them, and the effects of them prevent you from being able to process the very thing that is causing the disorder. 

i dont even know at this point if processing anything is possibel for me, and if it were, if that would be the solution to eradicating the disorder or somehow would strengthen my mind and its absolitly to handle things in a non-disordered fashion 

but supposedly dbt and cbt have been known to be effective. coupled with emdr and meds, lots of therapy. 

*shrugs* i'm in the dark. 

Blanc said: 

Turncoat said: 

Blanc said: 

My life is choc full of problems and I just kind of avoid them by pretending they’re not that real or I just detach from it. #vent 

So... just like Delora and Med do? 

How are you supposed to develop a tolerance against emotional toil like this? 

well, i think the way my brain chose to cope was detachment, so now it's just something i struggle with. 

"Your brain" also chose to see this as a problem, so "your brain" has room to work on itself. 

Detachment was my automatic go to strategy growing up, but it can be forced through if you have reason to see it as a weakness instead of some bullshit "stoicism" strength. 

but i've been wondering the same thing myself. like how to people confront things and just get through it and be fine. 

For those it comes naturally to, they just do it and don't know the difference, like a beneficial blind spot. 

For those otherwise, they need to have something that motivates them to push through what they'd prefer to do instead, like a sense of shame or something. 

i don't know how to do that. it's more difficult because of ptsd. 

Bullshit, I've met plenty of motivated people with PTSD, both with and without my giving them sarcastic air quotes. 

i don't know if you can erase the effects of ptsd once you have them, and the effects of them prevent you from being able to process the very thing that is causing the disorder. 

This is justification. 

People with PTSD tend to be more focused on the events themselves than the label. You in general tend to adopt labels to assist yourself coping with an unrelated situation. 

"Oh well of course I can't handle this, I must have ______, just like those people I looked into self-indulgently for why I can't handle this."

i dont even know at this point if processing anything is possibel for me, and if it were, if that would be the solution to eradicating the disorder or somehow would strengthen my mind and its absolitly to handle things in a non-disordered fashion 

but supposedly dbt and cbt have been known to be effective. coupled with emdr and meds, lots of therapy. 

*shrugs* i'm in the dark. 

You could give up on trying to "feel better", and instead accept that it won't happen. 

You can't expect to find happiness if you turn your addictive behaviors towards every other aspect of your life. You can't just fix life problems with some magic pill, adhesive bandage, or otherwise one-step solution. Nothing comes easily, except what you find yourself with already. 

Perhaps once you stop trying to "feel better" the same way that someone looking for their next fix would be is when you'll start to actually feel better. You have to stop chasing things so hard and accept who you are, for it's failings, instead of using them as anxious excuses while ruminating over being a failure. 

Yes, you're a failure. Why not embrace it? Become it? Make it your own? Why not recontextualize this failing into something useful, since every weakness is a potential well of strength just as much as every strength serves as weakness? 

Why try harder? Why live masochistically if your needs are otherwise met? Why does your idea of success have to be something you use to beat yourself up over when you could just learn to accept where you are, who you are, and how you are? 

Accept and embrace this pain's existence, and you'll find it more tolerable like the sting of a hot tub. What hurts you now is the differences between how you are and how you'd prefer to be, so why not just... stop preferring to be better? 

user22212 said: 

Our med stopped working too kek

 Oh I don't think I've ever had a real job! <3