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Have you tried asking her any of this instead of just pondering it solo? 

Also, your dating issues are not a gender problem, but rather one of self-esteem. 

what dating issues 

you mean what I'm talking about here in this thread? 

The way you talk about relationships, makes you sound like allot of the problem. 

Blanc said: 

I know it’s not like mandatory but I feel like if we don’t keep that strong connection our ties will fade and I will slowly lose her 

Fear of loss

This is the time for me to put effort into the relationship and I’ve thought of a few things but what... does she want/need and what’s the best move? You know? 

"I must keep her"

I feel like if I don’t do something her guardedness and naturally anti-social nature, she will slowly withdrawal from the idea of us 

"Cant let her even think about leaving"

and lean back into what’s comfortable which is loneliness and abusive men 

"Im the best thing for her"

maybe I should take her on a trip like to my beach condo where I detoxed one time. And I can open up to her lightly about my struggles briefly and maybe that will get the ball rolling. 

"Maybe if I tell her how crazy and broken I am she will stay out of pity. It's just us in this bad harsh world"

Becauze she was open with me but now it’s hitting the mark where we go deeper and it’s... she’s getting uncomfortable I can tell and wants to run from that discomfort so.

You care from a selfish perspective,and where she opens up- you place claws.

If I do something to make her realize she has nothing to be uncomfortable about maybe she will feel safe 

Earn trust; don't prove it.

I think she does want to get away and be free a bit, have fun, relax. So she would probably love the beach condo. And uh... hm... 

like she wants fun and adventure and interest but at the same time wants comfort and safety and someone to take care of her. 

You can't even take care of you; she knows you can't care for her.

we also laugh a lot together normally but she is stressed lately so she isn’t laughing as much or being as funny lately, I can tell she seems distracted... she’s feeling financial pressure. 

"So let's spend money on a vacation"

Uh... hm.. wait. I- 

But no you’re right, maybe i should stop spoiling her with pedicures and Tesla’s and luxury hot tubs by the fire. 

... we should do something free. Like hiking. Really bond. Have fun. 

Thank you you’re, amazing. *kisses cain on the cheek and runs off to buy camping gear feverishly*