-venting: I currently have someone at work, a coworker who, instead of saying “excuse me” or “behind you”, and scooting by behind me- will come up behind me without my knowing he’s there and touch my shoulder or my back. He does it every time. To let me know he is sliding behind me.
So that way you dont back into him. Not sexual.
I absolutely can’t stand this. It’s like nails on a chalk board to me. That is the level of discomfort I feel, every time anyone touches my shoulder or, comes up behind me.
Cain I wasn't implying it was sexual nor did I ever use the word sexual anywhere in my posts... you kind of jumped to conclusions there.
and I'm not *horirbly upset* like I said it's not the end of the world I was just talking about something for a couple sentences, like it's not a huge deal seriously, this is just what girls do we talk about what's on our minds and the things that bothered us. all the girls at work do this all day long, we do it to each other. it's how we bond. it's very normal.
you're blowing out of proportion or making a larger deal about something that I just briefly said, and then was done with. it's called expressing my feelings. it's not your feelings, and I wasn't asking anyone if they were justified or seeking validation from you or anyone about it- nor was I making a huge fuss or stating that I was seriously upset or seriously harmed/hurt by this situation, or overdramaticizing it.
I was just simply mentioning like, I don't know the word for it but, like "coffee chat" you know, really really small talk that's very insignificant, brief, and then you never really talk about it again lol. I was just providing an example of a time being touched was like ew to me, some people don't like it, it happens. but yeah um, it could of been any other situation I could bring up in my memory but, that just happen to be the one I used an example.
I understand why he does it, he is quiet and doesn't want to feel like he is interrupting my focus while I'm doing stuff or whatever and it is cramped in there so yeah, I know it's not meant to be sexual, I don't have negative feelings toward him for doing this. he talks about his girlfriend all the time and is clearly head over heels and wants to marry the girl they've been together seriously for 2 years now, which for a college kid is a long time. he's super nice to me and super polite and considerate. the reason he does it *is because* of that fact.
I don't expect people to like, be fearful of touching all other people "just in case" it makes them cringe. seriously, it's my own issue (that isn't that large of an issue, like very minor, as minor as a sneeze) and I recognize I have to address and deal with it that's why I'm listing it underneath a diagnosis which has to be worked on in therapy you goof. so you can work on these things and help them improve over time.
this issue with being touched may not last, and if treatment continues going well then i could become comfortable with it again, but it takes therapy. like I stated at the beginning, these things really do get better over time with proper treatment, and it's not set in stone. it's just a sign of something, and when its treated, it can lift.
the whole point of this is so that people who have the same oddities but feel alone in, or embarrassed by them- can go, "hey me too, so glad I'm not alone." or, "I KNOW RIGHT??"
and that's about it dawg. it's just about relating to other people who hold similar experiences, and all our experiences aren't going to be 100% the same and that's why I put it int the disclaimer.
is there anything else you want to bother me about?
I....only open Blanc posts for the replies....
Lmfao
I'm a nice person, you should try it sometime.
Cain I wasn't implying it was sexual nor did I ever use the word sexual anywhere in my posts... you kind of jumped to conclusions there.
Peach made mention. Shut up.
and I'm not *horirbly upset* like I said it's not the end of the world I was just talking about something for a couple sentences, like it's not a huge deal seriously, this is just what girls do we talk about what's on our minds and the things that bothered us. all the girls at work do this all day long, we do it to each other. it's how we bond. it's very normal.
I must be one of the girls
you're blowing out of proportion or making a larger deal about something that I just briefly said, and then was done with.
The thread kinda rolled the ball before me dumbass
it's called expressing my feelings. it's not your feelings, and I wasn't asking anyone if they were justified or seeking validation from you or anyone about it-
So... Why share
nor was I making a huge fuss or stating that I was seriously upset or seriously harmed/hurt by this situation, or overdramaticizing it.
PTSD
I was just simply mentioning like, I don't know the word for it but, like "coffee chat" you know, really really small talk that's very insignificant, brief, and then you never really talk about it again lol. I was just providing an example of a time being touched was like ew to me, some people don't like it, it happens. but yeah um, it could of been any other situation I could bring up in my memory but, that just happen to be the one I used an example.
Blah blah blah
I understand why he does it, he is quiet and doesn't want to feel like he is interrupting my focus while I'm doing stuff or whatever and it is cramped in there so yeah, I know it's not meant to be sexual, I don't have negative feelings toward him for doing this. he talks about his girlfriend all the time and is clearly head over heels and wants to marry the girl they've been together seriously for 2 years now, which for a college kid is a long time. he's super nice to me and super polite and considerate. the reason he does it *is because* of that fact.
Blah blah blah. Deceptive with tone blah blah
I don't expect people to like, be fearful of touching all other people "just in case" it makes them cringe. seriously, it's my own issue (that isn't that large of an issue, like very minor, as minor as a sneeze) and I recognize I have to address and deal with it that's why I'm listing it underneath a diagnosis which has to be worked on in therapy you goof. so you can work on these things and help them improve over time.
Blaaaahhhhh
this issue with being touched may not last, and if treatment continues going well then i could become comfortable with it again, but it takes therapy. like I stated at the beginning, these things really do get better over time with proper treatment, and it's not set in stone. it's just a sign of something, and when its treated, it can lift.
Omg lol im not reading anything with a blah response btw
Blah blah
the whole point of this is so that people who have the same oddities but feel alone in, or embarrassed by them- can go, "hey me too, so glad I'm not alone." or, "I KNOW RIGHT??"
and that's about it dawg. it's just about relating to other people who hold similar experiences, and all our experiences aren't going to be 100% the same and that's why I put it int the disclaimer.
Blah blah blah
is there anything else you want to bother me about?
You got it the wrong way around
I....only open Blanc posts for the replies....
Lmfao
I'm a nice person, you should try it sometime.
No you arent. You just victimized yourself as a form of behaviour manipulation because you took "replies" personally. She could be talking of me, or anybody else. And you implied a negative tone to the lmfao because you are projecting your character.
