Sociopath Community

Turncoat said: 

FOTS said: 

In short, yes I get tired of always being nice to people. But I have a better chance of success if I work with people. 

Why not just find others of a like mind? It's a lot more relaxed and laid back when you don't have to be something unlike yourself. 

When you have to pretend you're someone else, it gives you a queue of expectations around that other person that can very easily be externalized as blame towards them, or "people" if it's a mask for everyone. 

Being yourself might be repellant to many people, but those who stick around will be around for the real you, a you that isn't an Actor's Queue, a Behavioral Checklist, and instead relaxed and laid back with synergistic company. 

 I can tell when someone is like me and adjust accordingly. 

I had one friend last year that I would go on private property with at night, not for anything particularly bad. During the day I'd hang out with the other guys who wouldn't be accepting of what we like to do

I've learned not to close too many doors, just put people on the back burner if I have to be fake around them 

Blanc said: 

Its all about perspective, like your motivation to socialize shouldn’t be solely ladder climbing. Of course it has its benefits to be more engaged, but it shouldn’t be the only reason you do, that sounds unhealthy. 

 

a lot of the time it’s not about what you do but the reason you do it and when it’s genuine life is more enjoyable. So I say just being genuine is more important and has a greater value or return than ladder climbing. 

Also it’s blatantly obvious when people do, to other people and it’s not a good look... 

 

being a social recluse has a lot of negatives and isn’t healthy either especially for ones mental health. 

these are two extremes you are comparing neither of which are healthy or balanced ways to operate in life. Just go with the flow and be natural, no need to force or fake things, life is too short for that nonsense. 

This is a great reply. Ya, I bet being a recluse could be unhealthy for some that it bothers. If you are a people person, reclusion would go against your nature.

BIearydoII said: 

Rashid said: 

of being nice to people? I mean, playing these social games to get ahead. Trying to fit in and move up the social ladder. Do you get tired of this? Is this a human destiny?

If you don't fit in you become a social recluse, an outcast. Is this so bad?

The good news is that if people like you, you take it for granted and see nothing wrong.

I tend to try to see the best in people until things start to go terribly wrong.

FOTS said: 

Were community organisms, we have a better chance of survival in groups. Isolation means death, they're linked in our minds by the fear response. This is why we are afraid of being alone.

In short, yes I get tired of always being nice to people. But I have a better chance of success if I work with people. Even the most capable people cant do everything on their own, and I'm by no means an exception 

 I know what you mean. We are social animals that have been in groups for millions of years. You can't really fight that can you?

BohemianRhapsody said: 

Rashid said: 

of being nice to people? I mean, playing these social games to get ahead. Trying to fit in and move up the social ladder. Do you get tired of this? Is this a human destiny?

If you don't fit in you become a social recluse, an outcast. Is this so bad?

 

 I never sleep, for sleep is the cousin of death.

 This is why its hard to wake me up